[kate Johnson]

Whats best for my partner to struggle dealing with me and the issues with the children or to push him away for him? For him to have a better life without me, I know he would aswell, he would travel, get to come and go as he wants and still see his children and have my friendship.
But to see him with someone else would hurt me so much I cant descibe but we hold him bk and my issues then become his problem, my mood swings and lack of being able to trust.
Without my knowing till a later date he spoke to my family and told them that he was gona propose and my grandad was over from spain for christmas and it was sort of like planned till my sister spoke to him bout my trust issues cause of issues with his x messaging him through fb and flirting with him and posting all over facebook how she wants a bf again and you never know what you've got till its gone n all this bollox!! which I did have a right to be insecure n upset about when she messages me n all
telling me that she will always be the love of his life and she just needed to click her fingers and he would come running, whenever, whatever.
Anyway he then decided not to propose ''till I sort myself out''. This was when our baby together, my youngest was 4 months old and he is now 2 and a half....we have been together for nearly 6 years now and I dont think he will ever show me that comittment, the way he talks its like if the ring goes on we are doing the deed the next day, we can be engaged for years you know! Maybe I would feel more secure, trusting and believe he loved me if he showed me he was willing to do it like 2 years ago but wont do it now! It shows me and the whole round around us that we are a couple and I am the one he wants to be with with, show me that comittment and 1 day marry me it's like he doesn't want onlookers like his x aswell as others obviously that I am the 1 he wants and he is taken, no longer on the market.
He cant accept me for how I am why should I have to change! Should I make him go to make him happy, though he says we are all he wants Sometimes! He also says that the past 6 years of his life have been his worst, oh the amount of time you have been with me...thanks!

[tattoogirl33]

I too wonder each and every day if my SO would be better off if I just stepped out of his way from happiness.. Just 7 months ago we were talking about rings.. but he seems to think that if he gets me a ring will will have to be married within the week.. I just feel that I also need that type of 'commitment' and stablity (we have always lived apart). We have been on and off for over 10 years and have an almost 8 yr old son together. I've ran from him many times due to the hurt I was SURE he was bound to put upon me. I've made statements that he's just too scared to do the whole 'for better and worse, in sickness and in health.. ' thing because he won't be able to follow through due to my irrational behavior and mood swings. I don't feel any man will ever really 'get' me and want to spend the rest of their lives dealing with me.. I feel your pain! Sorry no advice but I understand.