[Chronic]

For those in therapy I'm just wondering if you ever feel like you don't have "proper" problems. The longer I have been in therapy (4 years) the more I feel I shouldn't be there and that my problems are so insignificant compared to everyone else's. It feels like I have immature problems and his other patients have real, grown up problems. I am going to bring this up with T this week, and I'm sure he will say that my problems are as important as everyone elses, but I feel so inferior to other patients who don't have personality disorders and can function better in real life.

Does this make sense to anyone else?

[cboxpalace]

Originally Posted by Chronic

For those in therapy I'm just wondering if you ever feel like you don't have "proper" problems. The longer I have been in therapy (4 years) the more I feel I shouldn't be there and that my problems are so insignificant compared to everyone else's. It feels like I have immature problems and his other patients have real, grown up problems. I am going to bring this up with T this week, and I'm sure he will say that my problems are as important as everyone elses, but I feel so inferior to other patients who don't have personality disorders and can function better in real life.

Does this make sense to anyone else?

No, I don't.. You shouldn't either. Everyone's problems are relevent to their lives... If getting treatment improves you life that is a good thing.

[bpd2]

Depends. Sometimes, I can't seem to do a lick of work. I mean, I'm just hanging out, more or less, stuck, clinging to his personality because I'm in this weird blank phase--like, "who me? Problems? Wtf? Things are fine, but, uh, I have no idea what to do with myself."

Other times, I am a basket case, indeed, and I need someone who knows what the pieces of me look like to find them and gather them all up again--encompass the marbles until the table stops tilting.

Still other times, I am able to concentrate on improving a skill or am able to concentrate on well-being strategies and make progress and can get good feedback.

BUT, oh-****-oh-dear, it isn't even a spiral of experience of these modes. It's fits and smooth sailing and chaos and weightlessness and struggle and confusion and joy and nobody can count on "what walks in the door today," as my therapist has been saying recently, with, I think, some exasperation, because, uh . . . . it's one of those times . . . . . . .

So, do I feel like I deserve to be in therapy? Just as much as anyone else, I guess. But do I deserve to ask my therapist to put up with ME forever? Naw . . . . . . and that idea freaks me out. I mean, we have the same medical doctors until they retire. I don't get it why therapists make noise about that. That's the weird part of working with us, I think. We get better, then, kaboom, we're not. Maybe a year or two down the road, but bam, we're not. Then we're back in therapy. And I, myself, sure don't want to go through building relationships all over again. But to ask a therapist to go through the process of bringing me back again? I dunno . . . do I deserve that? Tough one. That's a poser . . . .

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I feel the opposite---like my problems are so bad that I overwhelm therapists.Or they might be immature, too.Either way, I feel like I shouldn't be bothering them.Esp after getting this message that I am "too complicated".billi

[Flooded]

I don't go very often anymore. I haven't been for over a month now. I think I'm pathetic for having to go. Maybe if I could get an illness I do deserve to whinge about then I might feel like I deserve my psychiatrists time and help.