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May 26, 2012, 08:59 PM
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I'm new here and one of the biggest issues I have is employment. I start off as a superstar but then something happens and i don't always understand what - but after a few years I quit and have even been fired a few times.
How can you get any healing if you can't maintain employment? I think i imagine I'm being persecuted or just get bored, but the way I self destruct is sabotaging successes. Anyone else have this type of issues and how do you cope? |
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May 27, 2012, 12:45 AM
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I don't have work issues right now because I am on disability. Between the BPD, depression, and chronic back pain, I'd be screwed if i tried to work
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May 27, 2012, 11:08 AM
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May 27, 2012, 08:06 PM
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I am really afraid, myself, to make any commitments right now because of that very thing.
I seem to have a pattern of wanting to do something and not following thru, sure as anything that I will mess up and it will be the end of the world. So I don't follow thru. Or if I do, I back out quickly. Once I took a music class and stayed exactly a week and then left. Another time, I signed up for a treatment program (2000) and left exactly a month later. I think I have this subconscious planner in my head that says, "I will stay for a certain amount of time and then leave". To avoid any problems? Hmmm...like it's safe to stay a while and then bail out. So I won't get hurt. Billi
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May 27, 2012, 08:15 PM
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yeah, 3 years is my limit on men, jobs, and apartments. not necessarily in order of importance. it's about giving things up before they can be taken away from me. if you have this pattern, do try to figure out what's behind it. do take your t's advice, however difficult, esp if different t's keep giving you the same advice.
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May 28, 2012, 07:42 PM
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Wow - Thanks! I can relate to all those - the constant cycling so I avoid being left and also my form of self destruction is I can't handle or maintain success.
Finding this forum is amazing to me. No one I know understands - even me - what I do or why and I keep getting blown away seeing my own struggles in others. It's still new for me and I don't have a therapist or DBT classes so I hope this will help until I can get to a place that offers those.
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May 28, 2012, 08:01 PM
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