[seekingserenity2]

So, I have been diganosed borderline and possible narcissistic and Bipolar and on top of it all I have brain injry that has resulted in executive dysfunction which is a form of ADD.

I behaved badly yesterday and am feeling very remorseful. I have a boyfriend of two yers and have been harboring a resentment about his having only photo's of his son everywhere in his apartment (too many in my opinion). He even has a room divider type thing with several 8 by 11's and 5x7's... I have asked him why we don't have any photo's of us together. I had the opportunity to visit him at his office and on his desk there is a photo of him and his son. So, we were all away this weekend and he was snapping photo's of his son (who is 11) and would occasionally point the camera at me but not actually shoot a photo. So, finally he asked if I could take a few photo's of him and his son. I did so reluctantly and verbally expressed my resentment. My boyfriend then went out for a few minutes to run an errand and I proceeded to take the camera to the sink and run it under hot water. I am now feeling remorseful and sad. is this broderline behavior and moreover, how do I fix this. I don't want this behavior!

It sound like a possible borderline behavior...you were impulsive, which is a very big one. Say that you are sorry, but also explain why you did it. Explain that you are supposed to be a couple and have been together for two years, but he doesn't have any pictures of you whatsoever and it hurts your feelings and makes you feel resentful. Can't guarantee he'll get it; hopefully he won't invalidate your feelings. It's worth a try. Oh, and by the way, welcome to PC. You're not alone here...there are people who "get it". I was almost arrested due to my impulsive behavior.

Hello, first off

I also get impulsive and do things that I feel quite remorseful for later. Not only do I regret my impulsivity I feel intense shame around it. You're definitely not alone. Hopefully your partner can be understanding, supportive and forgiving. It's hard right now, and your feelings make sense to me, you feel left out. You want to be included and feel a part of your boyfriend's life.

I would suggest to let things settle a bit by giving both him and yourself some space, and then explain that you are working on your problems and working toward a solution. Hopefully things will calm down for you.

I also can't say if you're borderline or not, but here is the diagnostic statistic manual's most recent criteria for BPD:
http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevision...on.aspx?rid=17

Perhaps this could help you figure out if you relate.

[cboxpalace]

It sounds like you were jealous which led to some impulsive actions.. could be bpd, but not necessarily. You can fix it by buying him a new (preferably more expensive) camera... then maybe consider looking into dbt classes... the interpersonal relationships skills would've helped in this situation to head off disaster before it started. you also never explained what he said when you asked him about all the photos.