cannot ever accept that someone else had feelings for me too

that I meant something to them!....that I was in their heart and mind too.

and that they were thinkin' about me when I were not around...

missing me caring about me...in their soul

just as much as they were in mine

I used my own eyes to look at me from where they were....everytime

and I never knew what I was really looking at!

so borderline

....??

just me...how I am...

and I really want to get better....let someone in.

I can see now with my sick eyes where I screwed up...

but I don't know what to do about it

DBT and stuff do work...but they will not work for this and I don't have a solution. HOW can you let people in? HOW can you take the chance? HOW can you trust yourself in even attempting to have a "normal" relationship.....

Originally Posted by dubblemonkey

cannot ever accept that someone else had feelings for me too

that I meant something to them!....that I was in their heart and mind too.

and that they were thinkin' about me when I were not around...

missing me caring about me...in their soul

just as much as they were in mine

I used my own eyes to look at me from where they were....everytime

and I never knew what I was really looking at!

so borderline

....??

just me...how I am...

and I really want to get better....let someone in.

I can see now with my sick eyes where I screwed up...

but I don't know what to do about it

Yes Dubble...I feel this way too. We're 'unlovable' because we can't validate ourselves. HOW could someone feel the same way I do about them? There's no way...
My feelings are so intense to begin with...

We Borderlines don't have a very strong sense of self either, so when we look at ourselves, what are we really seeing? Others help me to validate my sense of self, because I have a hard time seeing what that really is.

How to let others in, well I think we can once we can validate OURSELVES...then we can be sure of who we are, what the other person may be seeing and that we are, indeed, lovable.