[hamster-bamster]

I have always liked being liked, adored, cherished, etc. When I was in first grade, 4 boys whose names I still remember, fell in love with me and although I did not reciprocate, I enjoyed immensely. That pretty much started it and I still like being liked, especially by the opposite sex, the more the merrier. I can live without it and did live many horrifying years without it so I do not depend on it for survival, but given a choice, I prefer being liked. And I always thought that it is normal.

Today for the first time it occurred to me that it might be a borderline trait.

What is your opinion?

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

I have always liked being liked, adored, cherished, etc. When I was in first grade, 4 boys whose names I still remember, fell in love with me and although I did not reciprocate, I enjoyed immensely. That pretty much started it and I still like being liked, especially by the opposite sex, the more the merrier. I can live without it and did live many horrifying years without it so I do not depend on it for survival, but given a choice, I prefer being liked. And I always thought that it is normal.

Today for the first time it occurred to me that it might be a borderline trait.

What is your opinion?

Everyone likes to be liked. I don't know if I would look at that in itself as being a borderline trait. Coupled with other things....maybe. Most borderlines, at least I, am very uncomfortable with relationships and are kinda paronoid. You want people to like you, but are pretty sure that no one does and you misread people's verbal clues and body language to add to that feeling.... At least I do...all the time.

I can't stand not to be liked lol, and if there is nothing I can do about it (like make them like me by giving them whatever they want etc.) then I usually just choose to believe that there's something wrong with them to get me by lol. I don't know if this is normal or not though just me.

[Girl_Interrupted]

I wouldn't say that's a BPD trait to be honest, it sounds more HPD.

We like to be liked, but not the centre of attention so to speak xD

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Girl_Interrupted

I wouldn't say that's a BPD trait to be honest, it sounds more HPD.

We like to be liked, but not the centre of attention so to speak xD

I have enough social grace to not be the centre of attention, to the point of directing a man to mingle with other people when all he wanted to do was talk to me at a party and I decided that it was not cool to monopolize him. In hindsight I regret it and think it was too altruistic.