[omgmeve]

I'll only talk about the most recent guy but I've been feeling like this for years about every single guy I get involved with.

I met him on a dating website and we really hit it off. We went on a date and it was completely amazing. He really seemed to like me. I came home to a long message explaining he had recently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years and he wasn't ready to get involved with anyone, not even for a playful thing. I was sad but not majorly broken. He still wanted to be friends.

We talked for a few days and realized we had a LOT in common. I invited him over for sex (made it very clear it was just for sex, not too sure why I always do this) and we had a great night. He was lovely (I mean apart from the sex) and made me feel like I was worth a million bucks. Then he told me he couldn't do this and made me cry. Said he was still in love with his ex and yadda yadda.

We saw each other again and he told me "**** what I said, I like you too much!" and really seemed to mean it. He told me he wanted me to meet his friends and family. The next time I saw him, I was waiting for him at the mall with his favourite tea. I lean in for a kiss and he just goes "You know I can't do this..." We end up talking about it for an hour and a half. Things seem to be okay. He kisses me goodbye.

Then we spend days trying to figure this **** out. I could feel him backing away (I'm very sensitive to people withdrawing themselves from relationships...) and I freaked out. He was still using the dating website so I assumed there was someone else. He assured me there was no one but me. It confused me a lot because I didn't understand how he could like me as much as he claimed to while telling me he wanted nothing to do with me. We had a major falling out and he ended up telling me to never contact him again. I was a mess for days on end. A week later, I'm still crying over it. I wrote him a message on FB (he had unfriended me) trying to apologize for freaking out and trying to salvage the friendship and I'm pretty sure he won't read it at all. I feel so broken and it freaks me out. I talked to him for 3 weeks and he has this effect on me. I want to stop hurting but I don't know how.

I can't really help you...I can assure you that you're not alone.... Caught me at a bad time. Feel that way to EVERYONE I have more than a casual relationship with. It really sucks.

[AngelWolf3]

I hope the hugs were ok. I just don't have anything to say because I know exactly what you are going through. You actually helped me have a personal 'revelation' maybe that's why I am avoiding any type of relationship now, because I don't want to go all cling-on again.

I am sorry this is going on.

[Onecoldday]

I'm sorry that's a tough situation. I had my gf dump me last night in bed laying right next to me. it hurts and you feel betrayed. but you sound like a nice enough person so its his loss, move on and keep your smile on. I hope you feel better.