Or anywhere. Just something about me makes people not like me. It doesn't seem like my girlfriend likes me anymore because she hasn't talked to me in four days. I've tried really hard and it's just never enough. I'm sorry.

[tattoogirl33]

(((HUGS))) I like you being here I wish I had some good advice but being as I've been where you are.. well I've never learned how to get past those feelings..

[youwillrise]

sending you love. be easy.

[hungryghost]

We all feel like that sometimes (frequently!), I think.

I don't know what to do.

[IowaFarmGal]

You are accepted here nevergoodenough! Challenge the feeling with that thought.

Does anyone know how to stop being clingy in relationships? My insecurity's going to ruin us and if I lose her then I'm going to die.

[greentires4me]

aw we wubes you....

[IowaFarmGal]

Nevergoodenough you need to identify and challenge the thoughts that are making you feel this way. Feelings are not facts. Don't judge the feeling good or bad, just sit with it. What are you telling yourself?

Originally Posted by IowaFarmGal

Nevergoodenough you need to identify and challenge the thoughts that are making you feel this way. Feelings are not facts. Don't judge the feeling good or bad, just sit with it. What are you telling yourself?

I can't... That I'm not good enough, that she doesn't want me anymore.

Every single one of us has a constant inward struggle of whether we fit in here. In my case, I seem to for a while, but I feel as though I often make unwanted comments and when I feel good I joke around a bit too much. I'm also passionate about a few subjects that I'll stick up for knowing that I'm likely to regret when rebukes come in. In addition, I often get paranoid, certain when I post that someone is going to purposely hurt my feelings. You are wanted here as much as any of us. Post, give support, and take a break now and then if necessary. There's nothing wrong with just lurking, but this place is also your support sustem now so don't leave.

As for the relationship stuff....I wish I could help you but I honestly don't know what to tell you there. It is an area in which I constantly stuggle. Be as honest and open with your feelings as you feel you can be.... I don't know. Sorry.

[IowaFarmGal]

This is the filter of defectiveness/social undesirability. The challenges are: I am a lovable person, I accept and like who I am, I know there is room for improvement and that I will continue to learn and grow through life but I am satisfied with who I am at this time, I am socially acceptable to others and I feel a part of my usual social groups. You are in a battle for your mind. You have to challenge the automatic thoughts and tell yourself something better. It won't feel natural to start but you need to keep at it.

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by Maranara

Every single one of us has a constant inward struggle of whether we fit in here. In my case, I seem to for a while, but I feel as though I often make unwanted comments and when I feel good I joke around a bit too much. I'm also passionate about a few subjects that I'll stick up for knowing that I'm likely to regret when rebukes come in. In addition, I often get paranoid, certain when I post that someone is going to purposely hurt my feelings. You are wanted here as much as any of us. Post, give support, and take a break now and then if necessary. There's nothing wrong with just lurking, but this place is also your support sustem now so don't leave.

As for the relationship stuff....I wish I could help you but I honestly don't know what to tell you there. It is an area in which I constantly stuggle. Be as honest and open with your feelings as you feel you can be.... I don't know. Sorry.

I second pretty much all of this. I've only been here two months, and have already posted similar feelings at least three times!

[greyclouds]

((Hugs)) I like you. I wish you didn't have this illness but I'm glad your here

I don't know you yet but I can tell you this, I'm sure you're a likeable person. (likable?) hmmm

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I don't know you yet but I can tell you this, I'm sure you're a likeable person. (likable?) hmmm

Likable.

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

Likable.

Thank you. As you can see I was way to lazy to look it up myself :P

*note* I did look it up after this post, and found that apparently both spellings are acceptable o.O

http://grammarist.com/spelling/likable-likeable/

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Thank you. As you can see I was way to lazy to look it up myself :P

*note* I did look it up after this post, and found that apparently both spellings are acceptable o.O

Likable vs. likeable - Grammarist

I was going to say that, but didn't want to come off as a know-it-all. I've got the issues today.

[Broachellen]

I'm new around here but I feel your pain

I get these feelings often too, sometimes I feel likable and then I feel hated it just comes and goes, I like you even though I don't know you well I can tell that you're a good person

[greentires4me]

even elmo agrees

I feel like this all the time...no one likes me, I'm unlikable...and the negativity continues into my head until I want to just crawl OUT of my own head because at that point I dont like me either.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I don't know you yet but I can tell you this, I'm sure you're a likeable person. (likable?) hmmm

Either is correct.

Edit: D'oh...someone already posted that. *hides*