[NICK 0305]

Well another day and yes im sad but i put on a brave face. Its very hard for me as the woman i love who has ended things works with me and I have to see her everyday. I know i have support on here but how can i make her understand and realise that whats happened in the past cannot be changed and i am deeply regretful for the way i have been. I know she still loves me and she is also hurting, she is afraid that i wont change and her life with me will always be bad. We have many happy memories but all she is doing is focussing on the bad times and it hurts, she has hurt me before in the past but i stop and see the good she has in her, why cant she do the same ?

WOW!!! That has to be hard. Start making the changes in your life that you need to make, and she'll will see the changes, if she wants to.

Remember you have to get better for you, and no one else.

[NICK 0305]

Originally Posted by jeffro1972

WOW!!! That has to be hard. Start making the changes in your life that you need to make, and she'll will see the changes, if she wants to.

Remember you have to get better for you, and no one else.

Many thanks Jeffro

I'm sorry this happened to you but there is nothing you can do to convince her, change her thinking or anything. Fact is even if you can change her mind, it won't be right now. Clearly she's been hurt deeply enough that she's not wanting to or can't see anything left that's good between you. It doesn't matter if there was, right now she will not see it and may never. Especially if you continue to try and pursue her.

Leave her be. In fact I would suggest that you not work in the same place but I know that may not be possible for you or her. So you're stuck having to deal with her on a professional level. My suggestion is to keep it professional.