Lack of motivation

I just feel like I'm getting no where. I make plans, I get really excited that I'm going to make a change or do something new and then I just give up and forget about it. Like with this whole DBT. I bought a workbook and started it and felt so good and felt like I was making changes and then I just stopped. I can't get motivated anymore. Ugh. I'm like this with writing as well. I love to write and I have ideas a lot but then the flame just dies out. That's how I am with friendships too...and basically everything.

And with this website. I was so excited to find support and learn and talk to people and then I just stopped trying. So this is me trying!

Right now I'm so stressed because my boyfriend and I are moving in two days and his arm is broken so I've basically been single-handedly cleaning and packing and moving all week...and it's obviously not his fault but I get so freaking resentful/angry at him. And then I feel bad of course because, like I said, it's not his fault. But yeah...that's where I'm at. I hope everyone else is doing ok. I just wanted to check in and update.

Congrats on trying! I'm coming back too. I know what it has been like for me to hit plateaus at times (I'm in one now). I think this is how change works...we get spurts of motivation...then plateau...then change again. Don't give up hope. DBT is helpful, but doesn't always make people feel better immediately. Some questions to ask yourself: are you expectations for yourself too high right now, given having major stressors? Can you not always be improving and still be "ok"? Is it ok for your boyfriend to be wounded, needing your support?

Good luck with your mood...I hope you find as much support here as you desire.....

This is typical of BPD, assuming that's what you are DX'd with. one of the traits is not finishing things, I believe and I have suffered from this many times over the years. It's aggravating, until you realize and accept that your passion for thigns will come and go. It's ok.

I do this all the time, with different things. I do it at home with chores, work with actual to do list items, personal things that I should enjoy, etc.

It sounds a lot like depression too - the lack of motivation.

Is no motivation also a bpd trait?

Phreak

Hello! Kudos on trying! I have bipolar disorder and I have NO MOTIVATION whatsoever. I feel so lost and hopeless with friends, life and everything.

I start things too and never finish them. I think we all suffer from this no matter what part of the spectrum we are on.