just wondering what people think. I know this is opening a can of worms but I'm curious... do I come off as a rude person here?

The reason I ask is because there is a person on the gaming site i frequent. I have a lot of friends there so I am pretty sure it's isolated but this one person rubs me the wrong way in how he talks to people and for the life of me, I can never let it go. I call him on the way he talks to people. Well it comes down to him calling me rude and offensive, and as always, I tend to question myself when people do that. :/ Idk it's bugging me, thought I'd ask here.

I don't see you as rude at all you seem supportive and nice to me! And if you don't agree with someone instead of turning it into something you will say that you just don't agree and thats the end of it. Thats what I've seen of you anyway!

So no, not rude in my books!

[Trippin2.0]

I've never thought of you as rude S4. You're direct, which I appreciate alot.

I've come across a LOT of folks though, who misinterpret/incorrectly label directness or bluntness as rude. Maybe this guy is doing that?

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

I've never thought of you as rude S4. You're direct, which I appreciate alot.

I've come across a LOT of folks though, who misinterpret/incorrectly label directness or bluntness as rude. Maybe this guy is doing that?

Well to be honest I tend to be defensive against people that are condescending and rude and calling him on it was what I did. i guess it comes off as rude to him.. of course I'm a bit more vocal on that board.. so maybe I am. But I dont' tend to call someone out on something if there is no point and I don't troll them for the sheer fun of it. I always have a point and try to make it. Then again maybe it's my overly analytical and direct approach coming off as rude :/ who knows.

[allme]

IMO not rude at all! Direct but not rude! Direct and lovely lol

Originally Posted by secretwhisper

I don't see you as rude at all you seem supportive and nice to me! And if you don't agree with someone instead of turning it into something you will say that you just don't agree and thats the end of it. Thats what I've seen of you anyway!

So no, not rude in my books!

thank you. And to be honest, I will say that I dont' always sucessfully just walk away! That does take some control and I'm working on it but thank you

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

just wondering what people think. I know this is opening a can of worms but I'm curious... do I come off as a rude person here?

The reason I ask is because there is a person on the gaming site i frequent. I have a lot of friends there so I am pretty sure it's isolated but this one person rubs me the wrong way in how he talks to people and for the life of me, I can never let it go. I call him on the way he talks to people. Well it comes down to him calling me rude and offensive, and as always, I tend to question myself when people do that. :/ Idk it's bugging me, thought I'd ask here.

I have always thought that you were insightful and compassionate when you post. I look forward to what you have to say .
warm thoughts

Originally Posted by chilekat2

I have always thought that you were insightful and compassionate when you post. I look forward to what you have to say .
warm thoughts

Thanks *hugs*

[gismo]

Well s4, people on here think i can be a bit blunt and rude, but i call it telling it how it is, you sort of took the words right out of my mouth, i was going to post some thing on the lines of what you posted, but thought again, because i know i would only get 1 or 2 replies anyway.
look at it like this, all who come on pc have some sort of mental issue,needing advice,wanting to rant, or just some support without any fault, we can not change the person we are, whether it be in real life or in cyber world, we offer the advice to people we know might benefit from our own experiences, how we say it, sounds good at the time. every body through out time will have issues with any one who does not conform with the natural flow of " teachers pet syndrome"
we are what we are.
( those worms are gonna keep coming out of that can s4)
gismo x

I don't think you're rude. Though you do intimidate me a little bit. But I'm intimidated by a lot of people.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

just wondering what people think. I know this is opening a can of worms but I'm curious... do I come off as a rude person here?

The reason I ask is because there is a person on the gaming site i frequent. I have a lot of friends there so I am pretty sure it's isolated but this one person rubs me the wrong way in how he talks to people and for the life of me, I can never let it go. I call him on the way he talks to people. Well it comes down to him calling me rude and offensive, and as always, I tend to question myself when people do that. :/ Idk it's bugging me, thought I'd ask here.

Well maybe you have to not respond to that particular person. Sometimes people just don't click together. Who knows why. It just happens. I know I rub some people the wrong way, it seems like everything I say is taken wrong. Am I rude? Are they rude? I think there is just something going on that maybe both of us are blind to, or are not saying? Idk.

[allme]

Originally Posted by hankster

Well maybe you have to not respond to that particular person. Sometimes people just don't click together. Who knows why. It just happens. I know I rub some people the wrong way, it seems like everything I say is taken wrong. Am I rude? Are they rude? I think there is just something going on that maybe both of us are blind to, or are not saying? Idk.

No way are you rude either! I think it depends on the mood of the person too especially if paranoid, sensitive etc but that can't or shouldn't stop ppl being themselves. I can't talk, as I have taken ppl the wrong way before, but it's so easily done when in the wrong frame of mind. In a forum like this and others at PC, it's a wonder it works at all with all the emotional problems flying around. When I take something bad now, I read and re-read it again and imagine that person is saying it in a nice tone of voice. It helps me anyway!

But no, I don't think there is anyone really here that is blatently rude or nasty in any way. IMO

Anyway, you rock! lol

IROC? AS IN THE OLD CAMARO? thanks I think

[GeorgiaGirl413]

I have been called "rude" here, and in fact, have had to simply block some folks. But, I have learned that when folks get into these ranting and raving modes on here all they really want is validation that they are doing the right thing, that they really are worthless, and everyone really does treat them like ****. They don't want a mirror held up to their behavior so that they can see where they just might be in the wrong. I walk away (so to speak) from those kinds of conversations. But...to answer your question, no , I do not think you are rude.

Originally Posted by hankster

Well maybe you have to not respond to that particular person. Sometimes people just don't click together. Who knows why. It just happens. I know I rub some people the wrong way, it seems like everything I say is taken wrong. Am I rude? Are they rude? I think there is just something going on that maybe both of us are blind to, or are not saying? Idk.

don't be rubbing me any way at all. O.O that would be weird :P sorry I'm feeling humorous today

Originally Posted by gismo

Well s4, people on here think i can be a bit blunt and rude, but i call it telling it how it is, you sort of took the words right out of my mouth, i was going to post some thing on the lines of what you posted, but thought again, because i know i would only get 1 or 2 replies anyway.
look at it like this, all who come on pc have some sort of mental issue,needing advice,wanting to rant, or just some support without any fault, we can not change the person we are, whether it be in real life or in cyber world, we offer the advice to people we know might benefit from our own experiences, how we say it, sounds good at the time. every body through out time will have issues with any one who does not conform with the natural flow of " teachers pet syndrome"
we are what we are.
( those worms are gonna keep coming out of that can s4)
gismo x

yeah you can't win em all but I ask because I wanted to know in a general sense if the concensus was that I am rude, you know?

[Ultra Darkness]

I have this exact problem. Only one person (guess who ) ever really calls me rude, and he does it all. The. Time. But the thing is, I'm actually pretty careful about what I say. I try not to come off as rude, but I have no inhibitions about saying what I think. Heck, you saw proof of that within only a few months of my joining PC!

On the subject at hand, I think you're one of the nicest people I've met here (though I admittedly don't know most people as well as I know you).

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

I have this exact problem. Only one person (guess who ) ever really calls me rude, and he does it all. The. Time. But the thing is, I'm actually pretty careful about what I say. I try not to come off as rude, but I have no inhibitions about saying what I think. Heck, you saw proof of that within only a few months of my joining PC!

On the subject at hand, I think you're one of the nicest people I've met here (though I admittedly don't know most people as well as I know you).

THERE YOU ARE, OH PRODIGAL! :P God, I've had to post a shiat load of posts to fill my empty space here without your responses. well ok I'm exaggerating but yeah I've been wondering where you have been and how you've been! so how are you?

And wow thank you that you think I'm nice! *hugs back*

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

THERE YOU ARE, OH PRODIGAL! :P God, I've had to post a shiat load of posts to fill my empty space here without your responses. well ok I'm exaggerating but yeah I've been wondering where you have been and how you've been! so how are you?

And wow thank you that you think I'm nice! *hugs back*

Prodigal?

Anyway, I've been around. My online domain continues to grow. I've been... Was going to say fine, but I'm thinking introspective is the better word here. Hence, my new signature.

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

Prodigal?

Anyway, I've been around. My online domain continues to grow. I've been... Was going to say fine, but I'm thinking introspective is the better word here. Hence, my new signature.

prodigal --- I've just discovered I've been misusing the word. I shall crawl into a hole now. :/ >.< nevermind. that's not what I meant by the word.. God I feel stupid.

Nice new signature by the way. and introspective can be a good thing.

[Ultra Darkness]

In honesty, I was kind of amused by the definition of prodigal.
I rather like my signature myself. It's a verse from the song Last Man Standing, by Hammerfall.

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

In honesty, I was kind of amused by the definition of prodigal.
I rather like my signature myself. It's a verse from the song Last Man Standing, by Hammerfall.

I wasn't amused because I was so completely off by the definition I thought it had

[Ultra Darkness]

Why, what did you think it meant?

I thought it meant a person that has left/abandoned family or friend(s) from the bible where the prodigal son left to go off on his own. I know he left and life an extravagant life and all but I just thought the prodigal part was referring to his leaving loved ones.

[TheRealFDeal]

Back to the point. No, you are not rude at all. People just don't like being called on their own bad behavior. He had the rude and offensive part right, just the wrong person (he needs to pick up a mirror).