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Nov 09, 2013, 04:12 PM
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If you've been through trauma and abuse, do you test people who start to get somewhat close?
I wish I'd done that to some (Irl) and weeded them out! I do test people sometimes though, after I've tested them I realise. I'm sure it's a defence. I'm such a moron. part of me hopes this is my last .... Nasty triggery bear
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Nov 09, 2013, 04:37 PM
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I do test people a lot. I don't know if it relates to any abuse..but I know I am constantly testing people if they really care by pushing them away.
You are a good bear, fuzzy <3 remember that
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Nov 09, 2013, 04:48 PM
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I think I've just given up on people totally so I don't even test them anymore. I just try to stay away. it's not them. It's me. I just am bad.
But you're not bad. |
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Nov 09, 2013, 04:57 PM
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You're not bad! (((((((( hugs ))))))))
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Nov 09, 2013, 04:58 PM
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Nov 09, 2013, 05:07 PM
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I test people and I am sure it is linked to my abuse.
You are a good bear not nasty at all! 
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Nov 10, 2013, 04:11 AM
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I'm also enjoying my life better alone at home watching movies by myself and playing with my cat. This way, I'm not having any high expectations from others and i'm not getting hurt, or at least that's what i think for now. |
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Nov 10, 2013, 08:06 AM
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You're not a moron fuzzy.
I test people all the time, I've been burned quite badly both IRL and online. |
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Nov 10, 2013, 12:41 PM
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You're not a moron Fuzzy, I am always testing people in fact I have lost a lot of people through it, whenever people get close to me I push them away
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Nov 10, 2013, 12:47 PM
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I still have faith in the human race. But, that being said, I will always give someone a chance, if they blow that one chance, it's very hard for me to give them another. There are times where I will keep giving someone a chance and giving them a chance and giving them a chance.
No, Fuzzy you are not a moron. You are a smart Bear. ((Fuzzy)) |
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Nov 10, 2013, 12:48 PM
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Yes I do, Fuzzybear.
Even though part of me is aware of this unhealthy "tool", I still find myself testing my bf from time to time. I think that I do it whenever I start to feel particularly vulnerable. I also still use my old tools of manipulation occasionally {I know, I am a horrible pos} to supposedly "prevent" him from looking elsewhere. Stupid.  I can understand your frustration with yourself. It isn't fun...and it isn't healthy...but it is understandable how we got onto this roller coaster.
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