[rabbit1234]

Hey, I am 57 and was wondering if anyone over the age of 50 would like to talk?

[hawaii04]

Hello Rabbit. Something must be stirring inside you? We are here to listen and talk; maybe you can shed some light for us as to what you are experiencing.

[sheiba]

hi rabbit how r u?

[winter4me]

Hi, I am 61----let's talk...(pm me if you like, or just post here etc)///

Hey Rabbit. Sounds like you have a lot going on. I'm a little older. I'm 41 and I suffer w/ BPD and bipolar. I know I'm not over 50, but I've been around the block a few times. If you need someone to listen, pm me.

[Maranara]

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[rabbit1234]

Thanks everyone......
I guess why I ask is that am still having a lot of symptoms, but I have read that BPD tends to lessen with age. I have no friends and can't sustain a romantic relationship. I find it overwhelming most of the time AND I am transitioning FTM (10 months). I feel even more confused about who I am. I want to hear from "older" people so that maybe I have a little hope
Thanks again for responding......Griffin

[MoxieDoxie]

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[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by rabbit1234

Hey, I am 57 and was wondering if anyone over the age of 50 would like to talk?

I just turned 58 and firmly believed I would eventually mellow out as i got older. I was diagnosed with bipolar in 1989. I can't tell you how many times I was convinced I was 'cured". Always came back. During one of my severe mixed moods a friend suggested I might have BPD, as it turns out I don't but during a mixed mood it is confusing. I wish I can tell you it get's better. I guess some times it does. Schizophrenia definitely mellows as you get older, and I have noticed my psychosis has mellowed, but my mood swings and episodes continue. What makes it really difficult for me is I can go months and even a couple of years with absolutely no issues! I feel cured! Only to be rudely reminded no way, not cured. I don't know what the prognosis is for BPD. I can only tell you about myself. I been wrestling with my disorder since i was 6 years old I believe.

[hawaii04]

I wish I could offer you some sound hope. I am 48 and faired alright most of my life although I always knew something wasn't right. I raised my kids and did okay, but mostly my relationships suffered because I was always discontented though not angry. The last two years for me have been hell, the anger has kicked in and recently I was diagnosed with BPD. I have also read about symptoms getting better with age, but cannot yet attest to that. Younger or older I surely wish we could all experience more relief, as it can surely be a painful and lonely road. When were you diagnosed? You can PM me if you'd like.

54....and I was told that the BPD symptoms lessen with age. Mine seemed to have ramped up a bit. Of course, BPD isn't my only issue so maybe its the others. Anyway...you're not alone....and here, especially....you'll never be alone unless you want to be. There are always people here to help you, or at least listen.

Which sometimes, is all a person needs.

[diddlybunks]

Originally Posted by rabbit1234

Thanks everyone......
I guess why I ask is that am still having a lot of symptoms, but I have read that BPD tends to lessen with age. I have no friends and can't sustain a romantic relationship. I find it overwhelming most of the time AND I am transitioning FTM (10 months). I feel even more confused about who I am. I want to hear from "older" people so that maybe I have a little hope
Thanks again for responding......Griffin

What is FTM? How old are you? Hope you are getting help!

[Maranara]

Originally Posted by rabbit1234

Thanks everyone......
I guess why I ask is that am still having a lot of symptoms, but I have read that BPD tends to lessen with age. I have no friends and can't sustain a romantic relationship. I find it overwhelming most of the time AND I am transitioning FTM (10 months). I feel even more confused about who I am. I want to hear from "older" people so that maybe I have a little hope
Thanks again for responding......Griffin

I completely disagree with that theory. It doesn't lessen with age, it lessens with circumstances. I was completely fine for over twenty years and then I pushed myself to make a friend and have been a mess ever sense. All I can suggest is be happy with yourself as much as you can and don't worry about friends too much. I would also take up meditation and such if you haven't already. I've been a real mess the last few years, and it is the only thing that has helped at all. It takes work. It's not an easy way out, but it helps me and a number of others very well. If you'd like some resources, let me know.

[rabbit1234]

Hey Kathy I tried PM you but it says you don't accept them Anyway, I was first diagnosed when I was about 30, but I started having problems when I was 18. My impulsively has gotten better, but other than that it is still hard. Thank you for posting...
Griffin

[reesecups]

Hi Rabbit and others. I was diagnosed with BPD in my late twenties (28). And am now being told that I only have the tendencies. I know life has been pure hell for years. I am now 50 and have only, within the past few months, felt normal. But I don't know if it will last. But group therapy and a private practice therp has helped me. Good luck and take care.

I'm only 22, but plenty of people in my DBT group were around your age. and I know there are at least a few people here who are 40+ at least.
Best of luck.