[Samwise_23]

I must confess to being slightly miffed, why did it take years to get a diagnosis? I have been through too much depression and years of support and therapy to get here. Along the way I have been divorced twice and found some work and colleagues impossible.

Will I get well? Can I be happy?

I feel I'm making progress but each morning I get up and straight to the site to see if anyone wants to speak with me.......... More rejection?

As the Lamotrigine kicks in I'm certain that these feelings will decrease but in the mean time I hope to make some friends.

[beloiseau]

I feel the same way...I'm convinced on a bpd diagnosis but the mental health professionals will only admit to features of it. I don't know what else is needed for a diagnosis, and it is frustrating. I don't want to continue suffering while they make up their minds and don't take me seriously.

[technigal]

BPD was suggested for me 7 years ago but it was right when my dad died and I moved back to spend time with my mom so I never saw that pdoc again. It then took 6.5 years and a suicide attempt to be diagnosed. After a lot of reading and starting DBT on my own while I waited for my group to start I can honestly say I am doing better. I think that there are a lot of mental health professionals that still see BPD as untreatable and a stigma so are afraid to diagnose it.

[Samwise_23]

Originally Posted by technigal

BPD was suggested for me 7 years ago but it was right when my dad died and I moved back to spend time with my mom so I never saw that pdoc again. It then took 6.5 years and a suicide attempt to be diagnosed. After a lot of reading and starting DBT on my own while I waited for my group to start I can honestly say I am doing better. I think that there are a lot of mental health professionals that still see BPD as untreatable and a stigma so are afraid to diagnose it.

I agree, my GP just told me I was a "grumpy old man" in so many words. It took a move and severe depressive episode to get me seen by the right people. Good luck.

[Samwise_23]

Originally Posted by beloiseau

I feel the same way...I'm convinced on a bpd diagnosis but the mental health professionals will only admit to features of it. I don't know what else is needed for a diagnosis, and it is frustrating. I don't want to continue suffering while they make up their minds and don't take me seriously.

I really don't think people take me seriously now. I really understand that word suffering. In the end it was a box ticking exercise for me.

Originally Posted by Samwise_23

I agree, my GP just told me I was a "grumpy old man" in so many words. ......

I would think such a diagnosis would get a response from me of me flashing my middle finger to the doctor.

[Samwise_23]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

I would think such a diagnosis would get a response from me of me flashing my middle finger to the doctor.

I go into big smile mode. Ex rugby player so know throwing my weight about will get me in bother. I just can't stand the confrontation; worked with aggressive special kids for too long. Burnt out of confrontation and just want positive relationships and a few friends now......... Sorry too serious an answer

Ex rugby?

*backs way off*....... you rugby guys are WAY too intense for me.

[Samwise_23]

I have no idea what you mean! I'm Welsh and Rugby goes with the territory. Shame you're backing off anyone would think I had a personality disorder!

[technigal]

Originally Posted by samwise_23

i have no idea what you mean! I'm welsh and rugby goes with the territory. Shame you're backing off anyone would think i had a personality disorder!

Now that you've been diagnosed, getting well is very possible.
It sometimes takes years to diagnose, unfortionatly. This is in part at least, due to the fact that until around 2005 there wasn't a lot of information or treatment options around.
You are not alone.

[Samwise_23]

Thanks Technigal I try

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by Samwise_23

I really don't think people take me seriously now. I really understand that word suffering. In the end it was a box ticking exercise for me.

Glad to know I'm not alone

[BpdanMe05]

I have been seeing my doctor in and out of the hospital and though he has had to sedate me
Several times for my emotional rages. It still took 6 years before borderline
Was even a thought. I suppose since he didn't physically see my outbursts he gave the OK to sedate, but at the last visit a mere phrase made me start losing it, only then did he finally say he thought I was bpd. I think we express these emotions in times they aren't there for thus not truly SEEING the symptoms but merely hearing about them. Just my opinion anyways.

[Samwise_23]

Me too. Let's hope we both get the help and support we need, when we need it. Maybe the site will help?

[Samwise_23]

Thank you for those kind words. I hope we both get some support. I have lots yet to process

[BpdanMe05]

I find that even having a better understanding of bpd via this site is already helping me. I hope for you it does too. Reading other bpd sufferers posts give explanation and expression for things I never felt I could convey properly. Nothing has ever felt so spot on with my issues like bpd does.

[lynn808]

Originally Posted by technigal

lmao....thanks I needed that one today!!!!

[technigal]

Originally Posted by Samwise_23

Me too. Let's hope we both get the help and support we need, when we need it. Maybe the site will help?

The site has helped me a lot since joining in October.

[Shadow_wolf500]

The best help I've found so far is talking to others with the same kind of issues. Mind you I've only had a little bit of therapy. Am considering meds but have not made up my mind. (Thus I am here) do you always feel your not being taken seriously by them? I had one I liked and she seemed genuinely willing to help but I'm always afraid they are there for the paycheck. I have a fear of being expendable and that's a thought process I continually try to step out of ( not that I'm very good at it ). That fear tends to make me afraid I'm never being taken seriously.

[Samwise_23]

I think you have hit the nail on the head with the messages. I need to give myself time to understand what's going on and listen to those who know. Today I'm going to try to cope with little sleep!

[Samwise_23]

I've had lots of therapy through work and finally through my local Mental Health Trust. I was refused a diagnosis repeatedly by my therapist and only got where I am by changing two things. Firstly my relationship of 7 years broke down and I then met someone who did listen and second by finding a new GP who understood some of the issues. I feel that I am never taken seriously, except by the few I love and trust. I am finally on meds from a mental Health..... Expert. Maybe I'll now stand a chance. I believe I need to talk so will try this site, maybe I'll be rejected by people here? Maybe this post doesn't sound positive but really, honest I am in a much better place now. I'm starting a new job on Monday! I have faith

[lazydog]

Originally Posted by Shadow_wolf500

The best help I've found so far is talking to others with the same kind of issues. Mind you I've only had a little bit of therapy. Am considering meds but have not made up my mind. (Thus I am here) do you always feel your not being taken seriously by them? I had one I liked and she seemed genuinely willing to help but I'm always afraid they are there for the paycheck. I have a fear of being expendable and that's a thought process I continually try to step out of ( not that I'm very good at it ). That fear tends to make me afraid I'm never being taken seriously.

Hey Shadow, I get what you are saying. I feel the same way myself.

[Shadow_wolf500]

Thank you lazy dog. Yeah it's a hard place to be. Did the therapy help you at all?

[jk2833]

Hi there it's been 25 years for me, first depression then anxiety, clinical depression, now GAD with psychosis and personality disorder ...... They think!
My crappy psych dr said its hard to diagnose me as I can't continue with things, for example some meds they tried me on made me ill, and u couldn't attend some appointments due to anxiety attacks about them. Surely I'm not the only person who's had this?
So again I'm referred to psychotherapy with the same meds I've been on for 13 years now. Only my nurse understands me and she has got to finish working with me due to the new 'treatment', she has my diagnosis spot on but it counts for nothing in the psych drs eyes.
To make it worse I have long term conditions (disabled) and he just writes that off telling me to walk places....... Er I have walking sticks and a stairlift does that not tell you something!
To top it all off I have studied psychology at university and I just can't get where the dr gets his crap practice but hey ho that's the National Health for you.
Sorry rant over, anyone else in the same boat?
J