[isntlifewonderful]

Do you think it's possible for two people with BPD to have a healthy, longlasting relationship? And how do I do not to get clingy and scared when she starts shutting me out cause she's feeling like ****? Because threatening to commit suicide, saying "I understand you're sick of me, I'm pathetic, but please don't leave" etc isn't good. Especially not towards another borderline cause she automatically thinks I consider HER bad in some sort of way and gets VERY scared and angry because of the suicide threats.
I don't want to hurt her. And now that I'm able to think rationally, I know it's stupid.
Right now, we're friends and we have been for about 8 months. I developed romantic feelings for her early on, and after shutting them out for a while, they came back like a month ago. Now I'm so damn in love. Which, of course, is intense. I love her so much I can barely function.
She... I mean, she's too good for me. But once I admitted that I had feelings for her, she said it's a bit too good to be true, that I'm too good for her and that she just wants to hold me and allow herself to feel all those things she hasn't let herself feel untill now cause she thought it'd never happen. I don't know if she actually wants to try though, or if I do... as she's scared of relationships and I suck at showing affection. But if we should consider trying, I want to know if this has potential. If it can turn into a healthy relationship, despite our issues. Because I need to keep her in my life. She's what's been keeping me alive.

[ginaaa22]

I have bipolar and bpd and my fiance has ptsd from being in iraq, anxiety and some depression and we are making it work. it just takes two people who want to be together and are willing to put the work in. not to say that it is easy by any means...we fight because of my BPD but I'm in therapy and trying to get better.

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by isntlifewonderful

Do you think it's possible for two people with BPD to have a healthy, longlasting relationship? And how do I do not to get clingy and scared when she starts shutting me out cause she's feeling like ****? Because threatening to commit suicide, saying "I understand you're sick of me, I'm pathetic, but please don't leave" etc isn't good. Especially not towards another borderline cause she automatically thinks I consider HER bad in some sort of way and gets VERY scared and angry because of the suicide threats.
I don't want to hurt her. And now that I'm able to think rationally, I know it's stupid.
Right now, we're friends and we have been for about 8 months. I developed romantic feelings for her early on, and after shutting them out for a while, they came back like a month ago. Now I'm so damn in love. Which, of course, is intense. I love her so much I can barely function.
She... I mean, she's too good for me. But once I admitted that I had feelings for her, she said it's a bit too good to be true, that I'm too good for her and that she just wants to hold me and allow herself to feel all those things she hasn't let herself feel untill now cause she thought it'd never happen. I don't know if she actually wants to try though, or if I do... as she's scared of relationships and I suck at showing affection. But if we should consider trying, I want to know if this has potential. If it can turn into a healthy relationship, despite our issues. Because I need to keep her in my life. She's what's been keeping me alive.

i think it's possible because you both know, so that helps a lot. and with needing a lot of the same things it could be very good, it would be really nice if it works out, because when that feeling of love hits it's incredible, the best feeling in the world, it's so intense and unbelievable you don't want it to ever end!I know that feeling, loving so much it's hard to function.my one ex everytime she called or text i used to shake with excitement, but alas i blew that relationship up too. if it were me i would say go for it, but that could just be the impulsive bpd inside me, maybe you should take it slow, but you know we suck at that! lol!