This is just vile and totally uncalled for.
Beware this article will make you angry.

Don?t Date Girls With Borderline Personality Disorder

[LaborIntensive]

It is certainly very poorly written. But I think it is meant to be hip in some way for the younger males.

I had a run in with this in my mid 20's. Very scary and disturbing to be on the receiving end indeed. I was accused of this and that and then forgiven about it even though NOTHING was at issue. Now I do not want to get into a heated debate but let's just say that the experience can really bring out some negative emotions from me and I only dated her for about a month. Just went to the movies and dinner which was an exercise in humility and then the last time was when she wanted to go to bed together after a night out dancing.

The next day she just sat with a blanket pulled up around her face in the living room staring at me. We ordered some Chinese food and then she said "Why don't you go home, I'll call you later we have something important to discuss." She never called back and I didn't call her either. It was a third base event no intercourse and her reaction was so bizarre it left me paranoid about what she had on her mind or what emotions she had towards me at that point.

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by Krazy Cat

This is just vile and totally uncalled for.
Beware this article will make you angry.

Don?t Date Girls With Borderline Personality Disorder

you weren't kidding, i'm a guy and i'm pissed!

[Onward2wards]

This whole thing bothered me. What bothered me even MORE is a commenter who posted "In this society, we're not allowed to beat our women to keep them in line." Dear Sir, kindly grow the bleep up!!!!! I am getting pretty upset now.

It is shocking, I couldn't believe what I was reading.

[atomicc]

Well that made me sick to my stomach. :/

[Aventurine]

Originally Posted by Krazy Cat

This is just vile and totally uncalled for.
Beware this article will make you angry.

Don?t Date Girls With Borderline Personality Disorder

Oh...I am speechless, however not surprised as there are clearly some misogynistic comments out there...

What go me was; (and not limited to..)

So many commenters referred to meeting many ppl with BPD... What?? I am led to believe that that is their own sadistic, misogynist diagnosis and not a professional one..

Pathological lying is a trait of BPD??
That's where I had to laugh.. cannot take that stuff seriously..

[Aventurine]

I was just reading through more articles and comments on that site,.. Evidently its a misogynist site.. Its disgusting and got me very worked up, but I cant read too much into it..

Breathe...

Peace...

Ah yes, have run into that one before. Like Aventurine said it's a site clearly aimed at men with already low opinions of women and as usual it's easier to target those who are already vulnerable. (Although no question that a relationship with a BPD is no easy matter and more than capable of causing the other damage.)

My biggest issue with this and the many other pages like it is that when a newly diagnosed borderline is doing a google search these sites are often the first ones to pop up.

We are a group of people already suffering from a warped perception of own failures these sites are only going to do more damage. I know I used to (and still do if I'm honest) torture myself with these sites. Trying to remind myself of how evil I am and how little I deserve to be loved.

[Tristan H.]

It's really not worth getting worked up over third rate Internet trash; there's a lot more where that came from. But I wasn't even shocked in the slightest by the article because I've read much more condescending and stigmatising material about Borderlines (both male and female) written by a "professional" psychiatrist who has her own website. The site is really self-promotion, not therapeutic in the slightest, just advertising for her special blend of therapy that can heal patients where nothing else works. Luckily I have forgotten her name and the website address; it's not worth visiting, just as this Pick up artist website isn't worth visiting.

Do yourself a service, if you somehow read this message before clicking the link, don't waste your time.

[bataviabard]

Kinda feel like I need to wash my laptop and run a virus scan from clicking on that site...

[LaborIntensive]

Originally Posted by bataviabard

Kinda feel like I need to wash my laptop and run a virus scan from clicking on that site...

The sickest thing about this is the mentality of the folks in that article are shy I can't keep a job and refuse to be apart of society any longer. I am totally alone all the time. People tell me that I need to change how I look at things and learn to forgive and look beyond but guess what "if the world sliding morally and mentally why would I want to be part of it?" I can safely ignore them all and maybe end up homeless bu tin the end I am not apart of their sickness. I didn't read the full article and comments in this link but wow, it is seriously typical any more in society. Of course it has been around a long time but I think starting in the 2000's being a moron had become cool and endorsed by the media. Now it just mainstream and common. So very sad... this idiot has a career built on it and there is so much more garbage that is worse on TV these days >

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by LaborIntensive

The sickest thing about this is the mentality of the folks in that article are shy I can't keep a job and refuse to be apart of society any longer. I am totally alone all the time. People tell me that I need to change how I look at things and learn to forgive and look beyond but guess what "if the world sliding morally and mentally why would I want to be part of it?" I can safely ignore them all and maybe end up homeless bu tin the end I am not apart of their sickness. I didn't read the full article and comments in this link but wow, it is seriously typical any more in society. Of course it has been around a long time but I think starting in the 2000's being a moron had become cool and endorsed by the media. Now it just mainstream and common. So very sad... this idiot has a career built on it and there is so much more garbage that is worse on TV these days >

i couldn't agree with you more!

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by Krazy Cat

This is just vile and totally uncalled for.
Beware this article will make you angry.

Don?t Date Girls With Borderline Personality Disorder

you know the really sad part about ***** like this is these are the type of guys( that write garbage like this, and the readers that buy into it) that just ruin women for good guys like me( yes i have BPD and it is severe but im a "nice' BPD and a pushover) and in the aftermath, these unfortunate girls always seem to land on me and the damage gets taken out on me. misinformation like this makes everyone suffer

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

(Although no question that a relationship with a BPD is no easy matter and more than capable of causing the other damage.)

Interesting that you had to add this part, which in a way says "in a nice way" that relationships with bpd people are more challenging than others which is quite stereotypical too.

relationships are challenging with people. period. Stop there. Doesn't matter if it's depression, narcissism, bpd, or other MI or PD or even none at all. Fact is we all have challenges in life and bpd is no worse than other issues in relationships.

[Espresso]

I was angry when I read that article yesterday. Today though, I've accepted that the author is simply a misinformed idiot. I'm not the person he described, nowhere close.

[LaborIntensive]

relationships are challenging with people. period. Stop there. Doesn't matter if it's depression, narcissism, bpd, or other MI or PD or even none at all. Fact is we all have challenges in life and bpd is no worse than other issues in relationships.

I agree with this 100%. Thanks for saying it.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Interesting that you had to add this part, which in a way says "in a nice way" that relationships with bpd people are more challenging than others which is quite stereotypical too.

relationships are challenging with people. period. Stop there. Doesn't matter if it's depression, narcissism, bpd, or other MI or PD or even none at all. Fact is we all have challenges in life and bpd is no worse than other issues in relationships.

Of course all relationships have their challenges but when you have a condition which is diagnosed in part due to a pattern of instability in relationships it seems a little dishonest to say that we are no more challenging than your average person.

Perhaps in this context it was not something that needed qualifying but I refuse to be like those people who write such cruel things about us and invalidate the feelings of someone who is perhaps struggling in their relationship with a borderline.

We didn't ask to be this way and for the most part we don't enjoy hurting or even mean to hurt others but denying our effect on them isn't going to help that.

[Verity81]

Ugh! I had to leave a comment.

[likewater]

Oh. I'm lucky. I didn't realize there were comments after the article. I had to laugh that this jerk had higher and lower rungs of women he dated and seemingly they are getting enraged at him for no reason. Hmm. Imagine that. Oh. And the suggestion to tape yourself having sex as a protective measure? ? That was priceless. I wish all my dates valued my security to that level. What a
sweetheart.