[jean17]

I get a really bad feeling from my Psychiatrist. I know that he's not my Therapist and really view him as my medication manager, but does he have to seem to dislike me so? Is it just his way? I notice that he never smiles when he comes to the waiting room no matter who he's coming to get.

Once he seemed to get really angry because I've lost some weight. He said "For someone who doesn't want to be noticed why do you go around looking like you have cancer?" "Eat three meals a day!" Well, I can't. I graze. I have GERD and other GI issues that are likely "mental" in origin, but I can't help it.

But, the last time I saw him he asked how I was and I told him. He looks at his watch and says " So, you've been saying what's wrong for the past ten minutes, what's good?" I was dumbfounded by his rudeness and spluttered out something. He wrote an Rx that I needed and dismissed me with an appointment in two months.

When I see him next I'm just going to say that everything is good, thank-you. I just don't understand his attitude.

[Cynefrid]

Well that seems really rude of him. How do you think he will react if you bring this up with him?

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sorry to hear that your shrink has NO human compassion in his heart. Some of these mental-health-elitists may be very, very intelligent people - but they are clueless about human interaction.

My guess is he was trying to express the idea of 'I am worried about you and I wish you could work toward eating a more balanced diet.' He just is clueless of how to phrase it in a way that would be effective.

Hang in there and Gods blessings to you.

Some of these mental-health-elitists may be very, very intelligent people - but they are clueless about human interaction.

[shezbut]

(((jean17)))

What a jerk!!

It sounds like he isn't real happy with his own life right now, and is taking his frustrations with life out on his patients. Unfortunately, we all get a little overwhelmed by our own personal problems at times, but this guy needs to practice what he's preaching. Really!!

Don't take his humbug attitude personally. Instead, maybe you can pass on things that you've noticed to the head honcho's office, as you ask for a different pDoc.

Best wishes and very gentle hugs to you ~ take care!

My psychiatrist was like this too. Actually, both of the ones I went to weren't very nice. He was terrible at the way he went about getting information from me and made me extremely uncomfortable. I don't know what to say, but I'm sorry yours treated you like that!

[Kimaya]

Originally Posted by jean17

I get a really bad feeling from my Psychiatrist.

It would be hard for me to go to a doctor I felt wasn't compassionate and so I might miss treatments. Even though you are deciding to just cope with it, having that feeling about any care provider is never a good thing. I feel for you.

My pill dispenser is an NP (NP of Psychiatry), and she is really great. I wouldn't have made it this far without her. They receive training in provider to client interrelationship building that a doctor does is not required to go through. I feel like she is central to my care and her training is probably why even though she is not my therapist.

However, I know there is good and bad in all things, I am sure there are cold NPs and super compassionate PDocs. Perhaps your doctor is more of the blunt and no bs style, which can work for some patients, but it doesn't sound like it works for you. You may want to try to talk to him about it too and give him a chance, too, we tend to be really hard on our care providers, and even when I am sure I am right I still try to give people the benefit of at least the smallest doubt.

If you are sure he won't work for you or be able to give you answers that are helpful to understand his nature, I might look for another psychiatrist if possible. Even though they are just for meds, each member of your mental health team is important.

[Espresso]

Wow. I wouldn't be able to handle that. He's a jerk.

[jean17]

It's so great to have this venue. Thanks to all for replying to my Psychiatrist Woes. You helped a lot.

[The_little_didgee]

Your psychiatrist is probably suffering from burnout. Maybe his caseload is enormous and he cannot cope. Writing scripts all day will do that. None of these are an excuse for his abrasive behavior. People can be direct without being rude.

Can you find another?



P.S. He needs therapy.

[Perna]

Can you get another doctor? That does not sound pleasant at all.

[ifst5]

I agree with the majority here - there's a difference between being abrupt and being rude. It sounds to me like, for whatever reason, he simply doesn't have his patients interests at heart - and if there's no solid foundation how are you supposed to better the relationship? I personally would ask why he doesn't greet me at the beginning of each session or why he asks a question only to complain about the response. But i understand that it's a difficult topic to broach without coming across as combative. It might give you some closure though and allow you to move onto a different doctor with greater certainty that you're doing the best thing. Don't settle for a situation you're not happy about - we struggle enough without additional difficulty caused by professionals that are arguably in the wrong job. Good luck to you, and don't give up.