[Jan1212]

So everybody came over to my parents and me for the holidays. We're all living together. My brother doesn't talk much and calls himself "mute", but he plays games all the time. My sister told me she's currently stressed from school and finances. They both let the family dog do whatever he wants, make noise, tease him with food and he'll bark and bark. I have a baby.

This intense issue started then, I asked them to be quiet after 10pm because my baby needs to sleep. 2 days and they're laughing, dogs barking, he bring his friend over to play loud video games. I go down and ask them to crate the dog and be quiet already. They gang up on me, tell me to shoo, later at 1am he throws his cats toys on the ground knowing I sleep a level below, I know his cat is a very quiet cat. Another day I asked to sit down and talk, he gets up and leaves the room. I finally said he's disrespectful especially to his baby niece.

At the beginning we all spend time together. I paid for the movies. We were supposed to go eat out but they left without me. What should I do? My parents don't want to russle up anything, I can't sleep and it's starting to trigger

[CANDC]

You may need to just lay down to rest and try to get some rest. Hopefully this does not happen often.
If this keeps up get some ear plugs. Babies when they are tired will sleep through a lot.
Try not to trigger.
If it was me, here is what i would do for first aid.
Breathing exercise
If you are feeling very anxious or angry or just want to calm down, you can try a breathing exercise that takes the attention away from the trigger of anxiety to a simple tool of counting breaths.

Find a comfortable position seated or laying down. Begin to relax your breathing. Silently count 1 on the inhale, and two on the exhale. Then silently count 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 or until you lose the count then return to one. No judgement. I sometimes end up at 18 then smile and return to 1. The idea is to focus on the breath and the counting and not get sucked into the anxiety or anger trigger. Also works to quiet the mind.

[Jan1212]

Thanks! I need to stop focusing on them and focus on myself. I have ear plugs but I totally forgot about them. The stress is eating me alive. My mind feels like a sucking black hole. But now I honestly do feel better

[Crazy Hitch]

I battle to function with chaos and unnecessary noise going on around me.

Try get that little alone time for yourself.

If you have a mobile device try downloading some relaxation apps that you can relax and listen to in bed.

It's hard enough having a baby and even harder being in that kind of environment.

Take it easy.

[Jan1212]

Thank you. He left to play videogames with his friend but they're coming back for Christmas until after New Years. I'll have some music ready, I have baby lullaby music but I need to search for those apps. I also got an appointment for next week :-)

I don't know If I should confront them again, they absolutely know sleep is so important to me and my baby. I just don't understand many things,.. I'm trying brushing it off and assuming they just don't think about anyone except themselves.

[Crazy Hitch]

You're right Jan

They have certainly not shown consideration towards you.

[CANDC]

Originally Posted by Jan1212

Thank you. He left to play videogames with his friend but they're coming back for Christmas until after New Years. I'll have some music ready, I have baby lullaby music but I need to search for those apps. I also got an appointment for next week :-)

I don't know If I should confront them again, they absolutely know sleep is so important to me and my baby. I just don't understand many things,.. I'm trying brushing it off and assuming they just don't think about anyone except themselves.

Jan my gut feeling is don't confront them. They did not respond with caring and compassion. Have the ear plugs ready. Here they sell them in packs of 10 prs for 3 dollars. Get a whole pack and just plan a vacation.

I would go to the breathing and counting meditation that will center you. In fact start now so you will be less reactive by the time they get there.

Breathing exercise
If you are feeling very anxious or angry or just want to calm down, you can try a breathing exercise that takes the attention away from the trigger of anxiety to a simple tool of counting breaths.

Find a comfortable position seated or laying down. Begin to relax your breathing. Silently count 1 on the inhale, and two on the exhale. Then silently count 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 or until you lose the count then return to one. No judgement. I sometimes end up at 18 then smile and return to 1. The idea is to focus on the breath and the counting and not get sucked into the anxiety or anger trigger. Also works to quiet the mind.