[lostinlindon]

Hello all. I joined tonight but I have been a longtime lurker.

I am an almost 40 male, 2nd marriage two stepchildren, two from previous marriage and 2 from current. I hold 2 masters degrees but due to a white collar felony I am unhireable. My wife works to support restitution and to support our family.

Depression is kicking my butt and BPD pushes everyone away, except for my children.

In therapy I was told that most therapists wont accept a BPD, and that lots of BPD therapists will not accept new patients if those patients do not have a "belief system" aka religion. I dont care for religion, it was massively pushed upon me as a kid and I do not want it in my life.

Knowing this should I look for someone else?

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[dancinglady]

I don't know how it is outside of US. I can tell you that it is extremely hard to get a therapist to see a person with BPD here. I asked 26 therapists and the answer was "NO" not you not a BPD.

[lostinlindon]

I am in the US and can attest to the many therapists who will not treat BPD individuals.

-Lack of training?