[purplek0ala]

Wasn't sure where to post this..

I just typed out this long informative message and it didn't go through.

So short and sweet..
It's like when I'm more depressed than usual, little things have the ability to send me into a full on fit, and I just can't come down.
I turn my anger on those closest to me, though they have NOTHING to do with the incident.
I feel guilty, knowing that it will take a long time for these people who are so sweet to me, to be that sweet to me again. And things just get weird.
The initial anger quickly turns into anxiety..headache, hyperventilating, racing thoughts.
Then somehow the depression seems to make itself even worse.
I feel like such a burden to everyone, especially myself.
I'm basically invisible until these occasions arise and then there's only negative feelings towards me, I'm sure, because I hurt them..snapping at them, ignoring them, diminishing their health, apparently. Why do they put up with me? I'm not even capable of doing anything good for anyone.

For the most part I feel numb and empty. Also, it's like I forget things or block them out. In a few days, I will probably have no accurate recollection of this.
So most days, if you ask me if I have anger problems, I wouldn't think so. But these moments make me question it all since I'm not sure how I feel, or what the source is. Could it be depression, anxiety, BPD?

I mean simple things, usually pertaining to noise..like a loud commercial, a neighbor's barking dog, a pesty relative, the phone ringing..

It's days like these that rip me apart at the seams. I am fighting with all the strength in me to keep from returning to my old ways of dealing when I'd get overwhelmed.

If anyone has any tips for how to keep calm in the future, anxiety relief, distractions, anything to help, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks guys!

[boydisappearing]

Breathing. It sounds so simple, but just removing myself to a quiet place and counting my breathing can help. Also tea, I'm obsessed with tea. And certain music. Basically, just removing myself from the situation and taking a time out helps me collect myself and keep going.

Originally Posted by purplek0ala

Wasn't sure where to post this..

I just typed out this long informative message and it didn't go through.

So short and sweet..
It's like when I'm more depressed than usual, little things have the ability to send me into a full on fit, and I just can't come down.
I turn my anger on those closest to me, though they have NOTHING to do with the incident.
I feel guilty, knowing that it will take a long time for these people who are so sweet to me, to be that sweet to me again. And things just get weird.
The initial anger quickly turns into anxiety..headache, hyperventilating, racing thoughts.
Then somehow the depression seems to make itself even worse.
I feel like such a burden to everyone, especially myself.
I'm basically invisible until these occasions arise and then there's only negative feelings towards me, I'm sure, because I hurt them..snapping at them, ignoring them, diminishing their health, apparently. Why do they put up with me? I'm not even capable of doing anything good for anyone.

For the most part I feel numb and empty. Also, it's like I forget things or block them out. In a few days, I will probably have no accurate recollection of this.
So most days, if you ask me if I have anger problems, I wouldn't think so. But these moments make me question it all since I'm not sure how I feel, or what the source is. Could it be depression, anxiety, BPD?

I mean simple things, usually pertaining to noise..like a loud commercial, a neighbor's barking dog, a pesty relative, the phone ringing..

It's days like these that rip me apart at the seams. I am fighting with all the strength in me to keep from returning to my old ways of dealing when I'd get overwhelmed.

If anyone has any tips for how to keep calm in the future, anxiety relief, distractions, anything to help, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks guys!

- Like someone else mentioned, deep breaths
- Take comfort in knowing that some of those things you cannot control. The dog will bark all day long if he wants to. You can only control your response to him barking. No point losing your calm over things you can't control.
- Ask yourself how much the problem at hand means in the grand scheme of things. Zoom out from your apartment or your workplace to outer space. You see the Earth ... the oceans, the continents, the clouds, the stars. Now, think about the barking dog. Can you even hear him anymore ?
- Don't take the problems personally. Realize that the dog has not conspired to make YOUR life miserable. Trade places with a random stranger, and I guarantee you ... he will keep barking. He doesn't conspire against you.
- As a person who suffers from BPD, realize that you will fight many battles daily. Pick your battles. If you try and fight each one, you will be miserable all day, everyday. Ask yourself if your problem at hand is really worth losing your cool over
- Try to practice compassion for the person who's causing problems for you. Is that person going through a tough time ? If so, is it possible for you to show some compassion for that person ? This usually results in you calming down.

i do things like bubble baths, cups of tea, films, hugging my dogs, deep breathing, opening my sensory box, talking to friends, going on PC, going on long drives...

[freespirit37]

Deep breathing, cleaning, organizing, fixing a meal, taking a walk, calling a friend...

I have a box on the shelf where I put stuff that is overwhelming me so I don't have to deal with it right then. I will write the name of the thing or person that is bothering me on a slip of paper and put it in the box and "shelve" it for later when I am ready to deal with it.

It also helps to write out solutions to my problems. I will list the problems that are bothering me, then brainstorm solutions. Once I have a solution to the problem, I usually can calm down.

[Crazy Hitch]

I learn to let go and JUST BREATHE:

And listen to Just Breathe:

[MoxieDoxie]

I posted 2 things you can try to help.
Coach's Mind Eye: ?What?s a matter with you!? Did your mother not hug you enough as a child?" 2 Not So Silly Methods To Undo those Effects

[Crazy Hitch]

Moxie:

"Who here automatically thinks they have done something wrong(even though you have searched the corners of your mind for any memory of wrongdoing no matter how slight it is and there is nothing)?"

HELP ME

I don't THINK this Moxie I KNOW this.

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I posted 2 things you can try to help.
Coach's Mind Eye: ?What?s a matter with you!? Did your mother not hug you enough as a child?" 2 Not So Silly Methods To Undo those Effects

Wow, really neat. I like it. Thanks for posting!

[MoxieDoxie]

Weighted Blankets is another thing I want to try.

Weighted Blanket May Calm Your Nervous System> Ruby J. Linhan, LISW-SRuby J. Linhan, LISW-S