Does anyone start to resent their friends?

Promiscuous_Petal · Apr 15, 2015 at 12:45 AM

Recently my friends been getting on my nerves. Almost to the point where I want to cut her off. She's so condescending and it's annoying how fake she is. I can't stand her. And I'm really angry just thinking about it. She hasn't done anything seriously wrong to me but she seriously just pisses me off. She mentions that people don't take me seriously because I wear makeup. And the other day she posted a picture that said "no makeup is the best makeup" but girl does she need some. Like it's just annoying. I'm super chill and don't care about what people wanna do with themselves. But my borderline personality takes it to the next level when people are condescending in this way. Like I don't even know why I'm friends with someone like that. Here's where I start to "split" and turn my friendship with her into resentment. Does anyone get like this? I have other great friends I get along better with but I just can't be friends with someone this weird and uptight.

kaliope · Apr 15, 2015 at 11:11 AM

hi promiscuous petal
if she irritates you that much, then why do you even consider being friends with her still? it only adds unnecessary drama to your life. if you want to look into it deeper put a pro/con list together. on the pro side list all the benefits of this relationship with her, the good things about her. there has to be reasons you became friends in the first place. on the con side, put all the drawbacks. the things in this post. the things that irritate you. then evaluate the list. do the good things outweigh the bad? or is there just too many irritating things about her to make the good stuff worth it? then make your decision based on that.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

Ruftin · Apr 15, 2015 at 09:15 PM

Hello

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I've had to end friendships that have added too much stress to my life. Perhaps you could take a break from each other and see how you feel about your friendship after some time apart.

I look forward to seeing you around!!!

Crazy Hitch · Apr 18, 2015 at 06:51 AM

Maybe you need a little bit of a "mental health break" from your friend in the short term.

Continuing with the friendship in the short term doesn't seem to serve your mental health well.

Just not sure how you are going to explain this one other than maybe to say you are working on a few issues (which is getting your mental health back in tact - not that you have to disclose that) and will contact her once you are more settled.

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