[cryingontheinside]

OK so its me again, maybe attention seeking idk. I just feel so empty and lost and alone . I notice people don't write much here , post that many threads and I wish we all would, I'd like to get to know everybody better here.

Does any one else struggle with feeling emty? Is there any tricks to make it go away?

I slept all day today instead of getting my medication and I'll be up all night .

I struggle with motivation as well. Any motivation tips?

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[cmc3663]

I stay busy. I am a stay at home mom so I try and force myself to be active. While they are napping I rest and do something fun but if I sit too long then the emptiness comes back. I find anti-depressant help because he emptiness is only worse if I'm depressed.

As far as tips for motivation, I'm not really sure lol. I have a schedule that I wrote out and I use that. I pretend like I'm still in school sort of. I go from activity to activity.

[dancinglady]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

OK so its me again, maybe attention seeking idk. I just feel so empty and lost and alone . I notice people don't write much here , post that many threads and I wish we all would, I'd like to get to know everybody better here.

Does any one else struggle with feeling emty? Is there any tricks to make it go away?

I slept all day today instead of getting my medication and I'll be up all night .

I struggle with motivation as well. Any motivation tips?

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I think people don't post because there are so many personal attacks. I think people get into all black thinking and one day it is fine and the next day people are acting like every post is wrong. Some of us are stronger and can deal with that type of immature behavior but others are weaker and more vulnerable. They don't want to get attacked. Black and white thinking is just how it is with BPD so we post as much as we can.

[cryingontheinside]

Thanks cmc, I will try that out , giving myself activities to do.

Thanks dancing lady. I'm sad to hear that people are being attacked. That's a terrible shame. I'm feeling very vulnerable myself right now


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[kamikazebaby]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

OK so its me again, maybe attention seeking idk. I just feel so empty and lost and alone . I notice people don't write much here , post that many threads and I wish we all would, I'd like to get to know everybody better here.

I think some of tend to withdraw into ourselves when we're feeling low. A lot of us also worry about burdening others by sharing. I really would like to know some of the people here much better. I'm sorry that you are feeling so sad and vulnerable right now.

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

Does any one else struggle with feeling emty? Is there any tricks to make it go away?

All the time. It only seems to ease when I am connecting with people in a meaningful way, which is of course the most difficult thing, isn't it? Feeling understood by those people is important to easing the emptiness as well.

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

I struggle with motivation as well. Any motivation tips?

I struggle with that as well and only taking Effexor has helped me a little with motivation. It's still very hard, though. I feel as if I have to "rest" a lot.

[cryingontheinside]

Thanks for your post kami.

I'm feeling worse today . last night I considered suicide as an option, I can't go into details but I was investigating methods to do it. I'm sleeping too much , missing appointments, eating too much then feeling disgusting and guilty , sometimes purging . I think I'm self sabatarging like I often do. I have nobody to talk to about all this . I want to tell my family but I don't think they'll understand only pass judgement. I don't know what to do. I think I might try the help lines I never feel better after speaking to them . does anyone have any numbers for mental health helplines in the UK? I'm such a failure , useless waste of breath.

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[Fuzzybear]

I'm in the UK too grrrrrr

(Btw I don't think anyone is a "failure" - at least not anyone who bothers to post here but I know how the bad thoughts want us to think that )

[kelseashell]

I struggle with emptiness and motivation issues, too. I feel you. In the past month, I've come a long way, though it's hard to predict how long I can keep that up. I have a few suggestions for you:

- Have you gone through the DBT Workbook? I'm doing it for the first time and I genuinely can feel my thoughts changing and becoming more aware of myself and my emotions. Even if you have done it before, a look through for useful exercises would definitely be helpful.

- Pick up a hobby. I know that's pretty standard advice, but it's good advice. Sometimes I just can't focus or find the motivation or even the desire to engage in even my most beloved of past-times. I've found that 'just doing it' is a big part of the equation. As you do the hobby a few times, you start to begin to feel more joy but you have to push through the emptiness or lack of enjoyment at first.

- Make intricate to do lists and reward yourself often. This has been a lifesaver. I make lists that include even the most mundane things like 'brush teeth' or 'moisturize' but also include more important tasks like 'start research on article' or 'go to so-and-so's birthday party.' Seeing every single task laid out for me, and put in order, is so calming.

Good luck to you! You can do this!

[kamikazebaby]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

Thanks for your post kami.

I'm feeling worse today . last night I considered suicide as an option, I can't go into details but I was investigating methods to do it. I'm sleeping too much , missing appointments, eating too much then feeling disgusting and guilty , sometimes purging . I think I'm self sabatarging like I often do. I have nobody to talk to about all this . I want to tell my family but I don't think they'll understand only pass judgement. I don't know what to do. I think I might try the help lines I never feel better after speaking to them . does anyone have any numbers for mental health helplines in the UK? I'm such a failure , useless waste of breath.

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You're welcome. I'm sorry I don't have anything better or more useful to offer. And I know when you feel so bad that those thoughts enter your mind, there's not much that can make you feel better, but it's still important to hear "don't go". So I say that to you. Please try to stay. You seem like a sweet and sensitive person, and I think the world is better for your existence. It follows that it would be worse off without you.

Talking to family is a double-edged sword. I have never yet told any of my family members about anything but my depression for precisely that reason. People have a tendency to use it against you and forget that you're an individual, not a disorder.

Even if you feel that way down to your toes right now, I don't believe that you are a failure or a useless waste of breath.

[TishaBuv]

I get those empty feelings often. I've noticed I get warm, content feelings at moments. I like the time of day when I'm making dinner. I light a candle and get a good feeling. We have a routine of watching the news. Even if I'm alone, I'll do this.

Or I'll look around and see beauty and just get a good feeling.

The other day, I went to a museum alone and really enjoyed the art. I just got lost in my own thoughts and the beauty.

Yes, I've noticed people apologize for posting. Why? The people on here love to read and respond. I've noticed too that when someone says something glaringly off, people tend to attack it. But, don't forget, most people here have disorders, so even the ones who jump on them have issues that make them do that, too.

Thanks for posting!

[cryingontheinside]

Thank you tisha and kami for posting! I'm feeling a little better today .

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[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

OK so its me again, maybe attention seeking idk. I just feel so empty and lost and alone . I notice people don't write much here , post that many threads and I wish we all would, I'd like to get to know everybody better here.

Does any one else struggle with feeling emty? Is there any tricks to make it go away?

I slept all day today instead of getting my medication and I'll be up all night .

I struggle with motivation as well. Any motivation tips?

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You can 'attention seek'! I think that should be 'allowed' anyway! We all need attention, I know I do. And I'll be your friend if you'll have me!

I have no friends in real life and was basically 'shamed' off an entire mental health site. So yeah, I struggle with 'empty'. I also struggle with extreme too. Never any middle ground for my emotions, ever unless its 'empty'.

I dont really have any advise. I havent read the rest of the responses yet. Just wanted to let you know that you arent alone, at all!

[lostinsidemyself]

I found this one day tapped to the bathroom mirror at work on a day that I was feeling so lost & empty. I have no clue whom put it there but I needed it and wanted to share

[cryingontheinside]

Thank you lost in myself for your kindness. I would love to be your friend. I don't have any in real either. Sorry what happened to you on the other site . hugs

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[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

Thank you lost in myself for your kindness. I would love to be your friend. I don't have any in real either. Sorry what happened to you on the other site . hugs

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Thank you! And its ok about the other site, it just means that Im here! Im learning how to find the good things in life!

Its nice to be your friend! If only people looked around our issues huh? Well I think they are missing two great people that would make great friends for them! Both you and I. I know, Ive found it easier said than believe too to say "their loss" but it is!

[babymonkey]

looking at beautiful things really helps me get rid of that feeling. Like being outside and watching how nature moves, like the trees and grass, little bugs, birds, animals... it's incredibly satisfying and really makes me feel in touch with the world again. a lot of the times when I'm out there I'll drink some hot tea and it seems that the clash of my hot drink and my cold climate seem to really start something in me. most times i'll try meditating while I'm out there too I find its easiest to relax with the cool air and soft wind noises. meditation helps me a lot with everything and if you dont do it yet i highly reccomend it helps me so so much with anxiety and mindfulness. They have really helpful videos on youtube for when you're getting started too.
I also really enjoy looking at photography. I follow a lot of photographers who seem to put a lot of emotion into their work and sometimes I get filled with... something, I'm not sure what it is, after looking at their photos.
I also like cooking and eating yummy healthy food and drinking some kind of tea. that seems to almost physicly fill the emptiness

I really hope this helps this is still something I really struggle with. Feel free to message me if you'd like I don't have anyone to talk to about these things either... only my journal

[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by babymonkey

looking at beautiful things really helps me get rid of that feeling. Like being outside and watching how nature moves, like the trees and grass, little bugs, birds, animals... it's incredibly satisfying and really makes me feel in touch with the world again

This is something that I just started to do. Its crazy that Ive never really heard the birds or the crickets or even how good a cool breeze felt on your face. I spent my entire life 'on guard' and I never ever was able to be outside and not be scared and looking for someone there ready to hurt me so i agree and Im finding this so AMAZING. It sounds pathetic but for someone that has never really heard the birds or crickets or really seen, I mean REALLY see a beautiful flower or the feeling of a cool breeze on your face; its just amazing to me!

Ive recently learned what my therapist meant by nature heals after watching this man on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday (this link is a TED Talk) but same beauty: