[HD7970GHZ]

I need a miracle therapist to come along and bring me back from the dead. I am sick of sociopaths and unethical therapists ruining my life. I will no longer put up with it.

Anyone got suggestions for my last attempt to heal and recover? I am sick of trying and getting hurt everytime. If I get hurt again by another therapist I won't be continuing on.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz

[Prism Bunny]

What happened, exactly? And I am sorry that you had a bad therapist.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time in treatment. I have had both terrible Ts and Pdocs that I got stuck with and Great ones that moved on far too soon... it's hard not only just to find a good treatment team, but also a compatible one too and then rehashing your whole back story...and then trust building.. yeah it's rough out there. Hang in there and turn towards extra support here too. Hope things get better soon.

[Chuva]

Oh, HD, I so understand! I've had this crazy, silly therapist for 6 months until I finally fired her. She did more harm than good, and wasn't certainly the first one to do so, although she was one of the worse. I'm currently waiting for my pdoc to call me in order to give me the name of a new therapist. I definitely hope he/she will be a good one, otherwise I don't know what to do anymore. Like you, I seem to have exhausted all my strength. This new one is going to be my 7th therapist. I don't know that I will continue going to therapy if the new one doesn't prove to be a skilled professional.

I can just tell you to hang on, you're not alone in this. We need to stay strong.

[shezbut]

(((( HD7970ghz ))))

I'm sorry that you've had a tough time with your T. It is so hard to "click" with a trustworthy T, one who understands how our minds work & don't push us too hard. I've had many different T's. It takes a long while for me to develop some sense of trust and truly share my thoughts & feelings.

So, you aren't alone in this concept at all. That fact may not help you feel any better, but please try to remind yourself anyway. Hopefully, the thought will slowly become a feeling of reassurance for you.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( hugs ))))))))
I too am hanging onto this thread/rope

I'm sorry to hear you've had a bad experience in therapy. I sympathize. I once had a therapist who was so bad, insulting me when i was homeless, that i made an official complaint to her professional body, called the College of Psychologists up here. The complaint was upheld and she received an official reprimand but when she appealed the decision it was overturned. I was just glad to have made some trouble for her. Her behavior was unethical.

Sometimes i think therapy is not for me, given my record. I'm considering individual therapy -- i posted about that. Maybe i'll just have to make due with books. I'm interested in "BPD for Dummies" and Marsha Linehan's "DBT Skills Training." The former is for patients and i will have to buy from my bookstore. The latter is mostly for therapists but is available from my library, tho there's a wait list.

I get along great with my GP -- been with him for 17 years. I just don't know. Therapy is so intense. My situation is complicated by my bipolar, too. IDK. Maybe therapy is just not for me.

[Chuva]

Originally Posted by apfei

I'm sorry to hear you've had a bad experience in therapy. I sympathize. I once had a therapist who was so bad, insulting me when i was homeless, that i made an official complaint to her professional body, called the College of Psychologists up here. The complaint was upheld and she received an official reprimand but when she appealed the decision it was overturned. I was just glad to have made some trouble for her. Her behavior was unethical.

Sometimes i think therapy is not for me, given my record. I'm considering individual therapy -- i posted about that. Maybe i'll just have to make due with books. I'm interested in "BPD for Dummies" and Marsha Linehan's "DBT Skills Training." The former is for patients and i will have to buy from my bookstore. The latter is mostly for therapists but is available from my library, tho there's a wait list.

I get along great with my GP -- been with him for 17 years. I just don't know. Therapy is so intense. My situation is complicated by my bipolar, too. IDK. Maybe therapy is just not for me.

Apfei, I've read BPD for Dummies and wouldn't recommend it. It's not that bad, but not very useful and compassionate in my opinion. It even has a section where it tells partners and friends how to get rid of borderline people!

If you want to read a good book about BPD I would recommend Lost in the Mirror, it's the best one I've read so far, incredibly well written and compassionate. I also liked Sometimes I Act Crazy.

I wish I could report my last therapist. She said some really insulting and unprofessional things to me. But I don't know if we have anything like your College of Psychologists here. Anyway, I reported her to my pdoc, who is one of the heads of the institute, so hopefully he will do something about her. Although I always seem to be sorry when I say things like that about other people, I always seem to say I'm sorry for saying that, and that it's not important enough anyway. So I don't know if he actually got the message.

[Fuzzybear]

It makes me so mad when therapists insult us when we are vulnerable and in pain - it has happened to me many times, with one T in particular. Sometimes I wish I had made a complaint, his behaviour was bad enough to do this I have much less trust for professionals than I did back then
I often feel that if one more therapist (or doctor ) abuses me then I'm done

[Luciferaugustus]

Originally Posted by Chuva

Apfei, I've read BPD for Dummies and wouldn't recommend it. It's not that bad, but not very useful and compassionate in my opinion. It even has a section where it tells partners and friends how to get rid of borderline people!

I hate literature like that, and it's way too prominent. I've had therapists (indirectly, but very clearly) tell me that I was beyond help, refuse to treat me, kick me out of groups (even DBT), and one tell my wife that she needed to leave me without even knowing anything about me --'just because of my diagnosis.

I'm lucky enough to now be under good care, and I really don't feel like things are quite as hopeless as I used to. It's just a matter of preserving and searching.

Anyway, I think I dragged this off into nonsense-tangent land, but I was trying to offer up something positive to the original poster.

[Chuva]

Luciferaugustus, I can relate. I too had therapists/pdocs tell me I was beyond help. One of them called my mom in and told her my only hope was to get ECT done - which I obviously refused.

[HD7970GHZ]

Thank you so much for the replies! I feel so supported from you all! I will reply when I get a chance. I hope all is well.

Thanks,
HD