Taking Everything Personally?

Hi,

So I'm not officially diagnosed with BPD but some online quizzes have said I very likely have it. During conversations I seem to end up taking things very personally, even if they are not about me. If my mother is upset I'll think it's my fault, even if it isn't. I over analyze everything my therapist says. Is this a BPD thing or is it totally unrelated?

It is very hard for me not to take most things personally. My roommate is great at dishing out insults or sarcasm that i don't understand. He does it in good fun, but still.

Thanks for answering dillpickle!

Very much a BPD thing. I remember flying into rages because friends took too long to respond to my texts! When in conversation even the slightest jab would unsettle me for hours. The underlying belief is that people do these things intentionally to hurt you.

I wish I could offer a quick-fix solution. It's taken me a while to build up the confidence to accept that people often say and do things without the intent to purposefully hurt me, and to let go of perceived slights. You're also not responsible for other people's moods. Very much another BPD trait.

I've been having this same problem lately (as in moreso than usual) in response to a depressive episode and some interactions that made me feel vulnerable that happened to coincide with it. I am also not officially diagnosed, but online quizzes suggest BPD is likely. From what I've read about BPD, this could totally be a BPD trait, but I'll let people with actual diagnoses confirm that.

I view even calm helpful tips as judgement or criticism. I have to seriously hold my tongue in many situations.

People with BPD are known to be sensitive. I know I am. I do the same thing that you do, and I also have BPD.

I'm not officially diagnosed with BPD either, but according to the online quizzes, I don't think I could be more positive for this diagnosis. It totally fits me. I am super sensitive about what people say and think about me. If they don't call or text me back, or show up for something that we had planned, I take it very personally. I've always seem to have friends that end up blowing me off, really good friends, without any explanations, and I obsess over what the reason is forever. I always wonder if it's something that I did, and can I fix it? Is it just me that people just don't like me and that's why this always happens to me. When I'm around a group of people, if there are a couple of people talking about laughing with each other, I automatically start thinking that they must be talking about me. I know that I'm thinking like I'm completely insane, but my brain won't stop. I moved around a lot when I was young, and I was always the new kid, and it was difficult especially after being picked on the first half part of my life where I grew up for being overweight. So even though I lost the weight, I still always felt fat and unattractive (even now I still struggle with these insecurities), but all I really wanted my whole life was a close group of friends. I still don't have that, since we're a military family, we don't stay in one place forever, and where we are right now my family hasn't really loved. So I completely understand what you're going through. It's just something we have to deal with.

I have been in your shoes, I'm still struggling and learning to raise myself out of the sea.

Hi 88butterfly do you have a professional you can ask about this? There's this saying in this show person of interest , just because you're paranoid doesn't mean you're not right (paranoia being a symptom of bpd).

I think we as emotionally sensitive people, or I'll speak for myself here, do tend to take things personally when other people say things against us. Other people may be able to brush it off. Us? Not so easy. I've been criticized for being "thin skinned" "over reactive" "too sensitive" by people who were supposed to love me (family and spiritual family). At this point in my life if people are saying things that I am "taking personally" then I probably shouldn't be around those people, know what I'm saying? Does that make sense?

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Thank you for your answer. I do have professional help. I learned something interesting since I posted this, symptoms of high functioning autism and BPD are somewhat similiar. I have high functioning autism so I'm wondering if thats why I scored high on the BPD test. I've mostly dismissed the idea since I learned that.

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That is brilliant! I've started to read the essential guide to Asperger's syndrome to learn more. I've read that NPD and bpd and ASD and even PTSD can all look like each other on the surface so that can be confusing to the layperson. At this point I'm trying to understand what ASD is: a developmental disorder? Why is it in the DSM? These are questions I am beginning to ask. Thank you for the discussion.

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