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Sep 17, 2016, 04:01 PM
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My life is so messed up and I wanna know am I to blame or is my bpd to blame?
My depression and mental health have been so bad that I started using drugs to feel better. Ive attempted suicide twice in the last 4 weeks. I can't take care of myself properly. Even brushing my hair is a struggle. I am miserable and can't cope. Am I to blame for my life being like this or is it the bpd? |
 Anonymous37846, Fuzzybear, Icare dixit, Lonlin3zz
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Sep 17, 2016, 09:04 PM
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Blame isn't important or useful.
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Sep 18, 2016, 01:05 AM
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you can't change bpd, but you are able to cope better with life, from self-reflections during down-times, and what you can do to keep yourself occupied in order to keep these negative mood away temporarily.
I don't want you to blame yourself for having bpd because you didn't had a choice for that to happen to you either.
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Sep 18, 2016, 08:50 AM
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BPD makes life more challenging for us than for others. How we cope with that challenge is important, as it ultimately determines the quality of life we have.
It sounds like you haven't been doing very well lately, but that doesn't mean everything is your fault. Try to learn skills to help you cope better. It takes time, a lot of time actually using those skills, before you see real improvements, but it does happen. And I do hope you won't go for a record of some sort and make it three times.
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Sep 24, 2016, 04:27 PM
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I don't think blame is a useful concept
 I wish you comfort, and peace from those negative (garbage can) thoughts 
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