[jean17]

How do you heal a broken relationship with a close relative like a sister?

I feel like I am trying and she seems to be trying to when she emails me. But when we see each other she practically ignores me. And she seems to make a point of being loud and saying things that she knows I don't like (swearing, crude jokes, etc). She says she is tired of "being nice" around me.

I didn't go to Christmas Dinner at her place with the rest of the family. It's just too tense. Alone is better.

Suggestions?

[Skeezyks]

Hm-m-m-m... well... the Skeezyks' perspective is that people just are who they are. Take 'em or leave 'em. Personally I choose to leave 'em... So my thinking is... your sister just is who she is. And since who she is makes you uncomfortable, I'd just leave her...

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I just posted about my sister and I in the relationship section. I've come to the conclusion that we're never going to be close, she'll always see my MI as a joke, and I'm moving on. But I recommend working it out and trying all you can first. Are you in therapy? Would she attend a session with you?

[jean17]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

I just posted about my sister and I in the relationship section. I've come to the conclusion that we're never going to be close, she'll always see my MI as a joke, and I'm moving on. But I recommend working it out and trying all you can first. Are you in therapy? Would she attend a session with you?

Thank-you and I hope things work out for you. I think you're right. She is who she is and nothing will change that. I can't see ever being close friends. It hurts me so much, but I can't do anything about it. Yes, I see my therapist once a month and can call any time. I think she is tired of hearing about me and my sister.

[jean17]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hm-m-m-m... well... the Skeezyks' perspective is that people just are who they are. Take 'em or leave 'em. Personally I choose to leave 'em... So my thinking is... your sister just is who she is. And since who she is makes you uncomfortable, I'd just leave her...

Although it hurts me to the core, I think you are right. I just have to stop hoping for a relationship that isn't going to happen. Take care.

[Fuzzybear]

It also sounds to me that she is unlikely to change..
But I wouldn't say it's impossible...(I also dislike the disrespect towards you in some of her utterances and behaviours (as you've said you don't like them) and, frankly, ignoring you at a get together is petty and childish... quite likely that is simply who she is )
If you also sense your t is "tired" of hearing about your sister this too points to a sort of stale mate
Families can hurt so much