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#1
Apr 20, 2017, 10:29 PM
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If you could have anyone, to say anything to calm you - what would they say and in what tone of voice would they say it?
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#2
Apr 21, 2017, 12:27 AM
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I would have someone say they loved me, that I was wonderful, and that everything would turn out okay in a soft, gentle voice.
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Apr 22, 2017, 02:32 AM
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I hear you
I'm here for you It's okay not to be okay Someone that is comfortable to sit with me when in pain, without trying to fix me. I have an amazing friend who doesn't trigger me at all and with whom I can be open and I feel safe. She is accepting of me whatever state I'd be in. No expectations. But she is also self confident, I don't feel the need to act in a certain way not to dissappoint her, as it happens with other people. She accepts me for who I am and that's confusing and new for me. I am so grateful to know her, but I don't want to overflood her with my issues... |
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#4
Apr 22, 2017, 12:46 PM
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I really want a good friend I can confide in and trust. Trust is so important. What they would say - *You're perfect just the way you are. You are awesome and so cool. I love you because you're YOU*. In the kindest and assertive way. Loving and wise.
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#5
Apr 22, 2017, 12:49 PM
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Yes, someone who understands me and lifts my spirits by giving me a nice distraction.
I've also had some people who just get me and others who just don't.
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#6
Apr 22, 2017, 12:59 PM
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Do ya think I could borrow that friend, some time? Just for a few minutes?
 Maybe I'll find a friend like that some day. But, I think the best thing would be to BE a friend like that... Friends like that are a gift from God.
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#7
Apr 22, 2017, 05:04 PM
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I would have someone say, "It's going to be okay."
My husband usually does that, but sometimes I don't believe him. |
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#8
Apr 23, 2017, 05:27 AM
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We need to hear the words so they register in the heart.
We need to sense the tone so they register in the soul. The words need to come from someone we've connected with - in a good way. Non codependent. Then let them settle on the storm. Here comes the sun. |
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#9
Apr 23, 2017, 12:12 PM
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I have an aversion to "It's okay," that's what my dad says when he's avoiding a perceived conflict, so...
Maybe something along the lines of "I forgive you"? Tone... somewhere between resolute and reassuring.
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