[zijax]

Due to my impulsive actions I have pushed someone away who was very good for me. I wrecked another relationship. Now I want him back and I'm sure he won't come back. This BPD is killing me!

Originally Posted by zijax

Due to my impulsive actions I have pushed someone away who was very good for me. I wrecked another relationship. Now I want him back and I'm sure he won't come back. This BPD is killing me!

Talk to him. Tell him. He will be hurt & upset, but if the relationship is right, he will listen to you. If he doesn't, then he may as well go because he would go at some point anyway. You have nothing more to lose, so talk to him. Good luck.

[Mightymax]

You should try to get him back but this time remember you got to take control of yourself know the person who you want to be. There is no one else but that one true person who you are. No other personality is going to mess up things for you. You got to believe in that person.

[zijax]

I'm not sure if I will ever be able to have a long term relationship until I work on myself some more. That seems to be the story of my life. I think at this point I will try to remain alone until I figure out how not to act off emotion and be impulsive and hurt people.

This is what my highest self is telling me but my heart tells me to talk to him and try and get him back. He is not well himself but who is ....I mean really, who has this BPD wrapped up and manageable? How to overcome BPD symptoms that lead to destruction???No DBT in my area.

[Lonlin3zz]

Originally Posted by zijax

I'm not sure if I will ever be able to have a long term relationship until I work on myself some more. That seems to be the story of my life. I think at this point I will try to remain alone until I figure out how not to act off emotion and be impulsive and hurt people.

This is what my highest self is telling me but my heart tells me to talk to him and try and get him back. He is not well himself but who is ....I mean really, who has this BPD wrapped up and manageable? How to overcome BPD symptoms that lead to destruction???No DBT in my area.

You're planting your own garden...improving the quality of your soil...checking out for weeds

Zijax, can I let you know, you got the ability in you to accept your emotions while keeping them from overtaking you.

Don't resist it, it will persist....


I am saying this because I see your potentials of living with a beautiful man who can stay for you. You could try and offer him validating words to get him happy.

[Ofeelia]

was the action impulsive or did he do something to hurt you and you acted in true anger? what if you take him back and he does something similar to cause you to act impulsive? I only bring this up because i was dating someone who did some ungodly things to me and I acted out quite rudely to him. Yet i kept asking for his forgiveness because of being bpd and thinking my impulsivity was out of control. Having exited that relationship, I now realize he was a ****. And i was no angel. But in the end, it takes 2