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Poohbah
Member Since May 2013
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I used to be in therapy (31 years to be exact). I used to want to be the best I could be. I used to do all the right things. Highly overrated. Well I left therapy because no therapist wanted to work with an old BPD. They said if you don't have it yet nothing they can do. That hurt at first then I decided the h**l with it I am going to be me at age 67. I work full time and hard I want to play hard. I am me with BPD. I am NOT me BPD with nothing else. I don't define myself anymore with a DSM-V description. I am me with loads of parts one of which is BPD. I want to live life have fun travel and if my destiny is to be alone so be it. It is what it is. We are supposed to have a distorted view of reality well is that so bad. Reality today government is shut down there are starving children and adults. I could go on for pages of what is wrong with reality and the world. I like my distorted view. maybe others should have OUR view. End of rant. Good night everyone and have the best life you can.
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Thanks for your rant!
![]() ![]() ![]() I didn't become actively involved with the mental health system where I live until around age 50 or so. But my sense is that I was already excess baggage on the mental health railroad, so to speak. ![]() ![]() ![]() I have a deep-seated need to understand what happened to me that I turned out the way I did. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Member Since Dec 2017
Location: Canada
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I'm 52 and agree with the above opinions, that the public health care system treats older people with mental health issues at low priority. I can see why: treatment may enable young people to live a happy and successful life, whereas at 50 the damage is pretty much done. Also, people in their 50s may be deemed to be able to cope on their own, as otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I'm with dancinglady: I'll probably stay alone for the rest of my life for what it's worth, so why not just live the day and see what happens.
The future will tell if privately paid therapy did me any good. On one hand I feel I'm gaining a lot of valuable insight, on the other therapy sessions are difficult to integrate into my work life and it looks like they just contributed to a significant and very demotivating setback. |
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Poohbah
Member Since May 2013
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They will care when we end up in nursing homes for sure. Then we will all the help and meds they can manage to give us. LOL. Probably have a conservator too so they can make all of our decisions. I feel at that point I will act like a spoiled brat. Lol
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Location: USA
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Hi dancinglady,
I agree with you, trying to do all the right things, trying to be the best I could be, going to therapy to help address issues -- all very highly overrated. Expensive and a waste of time. Basically, a con. If they had just told me, this is the way you are, some people are really not going to like it, and you may have a hard time getting along with the rest of the world sometimes, but you can find things you like to do and ways, maybe, to contribute to the world anyway. I think that would have been a much better way thing to do than, "Anything you are willing to face, you can overcome." Basically, a lie. I didn't have BPD, I probably had OCPD before I fell apart after my husband died. Over-rigid control that kept impulses dissociated and otherwise in check. After I fell apart I couldn't work, so you're doing great, it seems to me!! |
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I don't want to tell you what to do
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