[Sleepyspoon]

Does anyone purposely keep people out of their life so they don’t get hurt again or have problems lying when you go to your therapist

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Sleepyspoon

Does anyone purposely keep people out of their life so they don’t get hurt again or have problems lying when you go to your therapist

I don't have a therapist . I've been shutting people out for years so I can isolate and not risk getting hurt .

[Atypical_Disaster]

Yes and yes, I wound up shutting my own self out too in the process. I lost what little pieces of identity I had and it drowned in the mirror of everyone else.

[Sleepyspoon]

Yeah me neither but I’m not really even sure what they diognosed me with I went to rehab cause I was getting bad on meth stayed there for bout a two week then yelled at the doctors for not knowing how to fix me n left they sucked at there jobs I’ve just been so depressed recently I don’t enjoy anything n what’s the point talking to people if you can’t trust them

[Sleepyspoon]

Yeah i was done with this website anyway fukingg hate people anyway

Same here. I end up finding reasons not to be around someone, things i dont like, things that they may have said. Anything at all to justify my reasons. Ive worked with a couple therapists, never really opened up to any. At the end i found reasons i didn’t want to work with them anymore.

[giddykitty]

I'm usually the shuttee, the one being shut out.

There are now a few that I'm "ignoring", but frankly they're "ignoring" me first so I don't get the point. If they talk to me now, I'll get super thrilled. Kinda doubt that now.

Sorry, no I guess I don't really shut out people. I thought bpd had the opposite effect?? maybe it could be either "relationship issues".

I always shut people out, but probably for a diffrent reason/ reasons

A- they don't understand my issues

B- they are ****ing assholes

I also want to be on my own.

I don't want friends or anything like that

so their's another reason too... I shut people out for my protection

[Unrigged64072835]

I have found that most people don't want to understand or know me. I'm also very introverted and socially awkward.

Yes. I used to be more open but I’ve found I get along with people better if I limit what I share. I used to shut people out after letting them in. I find that I regret just about every time I let people in. I’m becoming more and more this way.

[MDDBPDPTSD]

I shut people out because I am tired of being hurt and because of the reasons Shattered Sanity mentioned. Also, because I just don’t have the energy to upkeep a relationship or friendship.
I do have one active friendship, one dormant friendship (it’s complicated) I would try to put forth the effort for 3 of my 4 children but they are all too busy to put forth the effort for me. (The fourth child is toxic and I just can’t deal with her until she gets help. ).
Other than that, there’s my therapist who I try to be very honest with. I count on her input to make decisions so I need her to understand.
I trust God and my dogs fully. People who are close I mostly trust. Others, not so much. I can’t afford to trust them for reasons listed above.

[Sleepyspoon]

I just want to die most days I do this to myself I either get angry at them cause of somthing or I start thinking about how it’s not gonna work anyway so why bother being nice