[Fuzzybear]

Do others here hate hurting people? I would never hurt a friend on purpose, I’m not a *****. I’ve been demonised by a few over the years which I don’t appreciate one bit. I have messed up.. but that badly? Oh well.... I don’t like the phrase move on but I’m certainly moving on from that. It’s bs. Growl. I really don’t like it when someone cuts me dead permanently when I’ve done nothing wrong, or almost nothing wrong. Like a relative or a so called close friend. I guess I have been known to “over react” ... I think that shows I’ve got a heart.

I think now though, if someone did that, I probably would just go into my cave and cut them dead too (metaphorically). Is that “recovery”? No idea.. maybe. I’d still be hurt and angry though, who wouldn’t be .. who has a heart.

And as I’ve shared elsewhere I saw a therapist who I think had NPD. He had appalling boundaries, was very callous and completely screwed with my head. Grrrrrr.

It’s not easy for me to talk, I’m “avoidant”. I wish that therapist hadn’t been such a jerk, I could have learnt about myself and ......

He said I was demanding. Possibly. I don’t think so really though. He got a kick out of tearing me down. Insane idiot. Growl.

And I was, apparently, a “needy child, and my needs weren’t met”

Thanks a ****ing bunch, I paid that jerk more than I’ll say to hear bs like that...

I don’t know if anyone relates to any of this..

[ShadowGX]

I too dislike hurting people I care for. It just seems to happen, though. When I get that burning feeling in my gut I have a hard time controlling my actions, so if someone I care for makes me mad or hits a trigger that starts the burning feeling then I will probably snap at them, especially if they push at me.

I'm definitely demanding, I don't mind admitting it and I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to be forward about what you need and want. There is a such thing as too demanding though when it becomes selfish. That's what I try to avoid. My rule is give as much as I receive, but often I give a lot more than I receive... So I don't feel bad about demanding equal treatment. I've come to realize that many people just aren't capable of giving as much as me, so I'm trying to learn to be ok with something close, as long as I feel effort is made to try.

[falsememory7]

None of that is appropriate for a therapist to say. Sending you hugs, Fuzzy

[falsememory7]

Oh! And to answer your question... I am pretty much the exact same way. It's not easy to talk. I hurt people often, though I don't like it. I can be demanding. I push people away, though I don't always want them to go.

[librarybelle]

I can be like this too. I definitely push people away, especially when I actually need them the most. It's something I'm trying to work on. When I get triggered, I definitely overreact, though I tend to react with tears, panic, etc. instead of anger. I would say I can be demanding.

Also, I don't think that's appropriate from a therapist at all. Hugs for you!