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recently my best friend amelia moved away with her family to move on with her life. I knew her for only 6 months, but she knew loads about me- and I was really close to her (somedays talking to her was just as good as talking on this forum)
anyway, after she left (it was on a friday), I felt real intense abandonment- not just by her, but by other people who I knew- I told them that I miss amelia, and they just had no psympathy for me at all. the best response I got was a "oh." next day I asked someone if they would still be their for me, and they said yes, but not meaningful or anything- and then afterwards promptly forgot about me at the moment I feel I have no one- no one at all. I sit in my room and cry and believe I'm second nature to anything else, and anyone else on top of that I can't get past the fact amelia left, and most nights I hear her voice in my head, speaking calmly and friendly, but it feels so taunting at the same time.. like I just want her here and I want to hug her and be with her- but her voice is making me think of her and making me cry it's even worse than when beth died, a lot worse, which is stupid and makes no sense seeing as amelia is alive |
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When we have a loss we have to work thru it, eg grieve it. There are 5 stages of grief and this takes time. My therapist often mentions that borderlines have a particularly rough time with situations that feel like abandonment. So yr going to need to be very kind to yrself in order to heal. Pamper yrself w feel good experiences and things u don’t usually treat yrself to. I couldn’t believe how great even a really good facial feels, or a massage or a mani pedi. Do some regular vigorous exercise. If one friend doesn’t listen, try other people. You’ll get thru this. You have wonderful times ahead w other friends once u heal.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling sad and I know how hard it is to lose a friend. Are you and Amelia still in touch? Will you be able to talk on the phone at least?
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thanks for the words of encouragement I hope your friend is okay too (the one going back to iraq) |
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she emailed me a couple times after she left, but not anymore I think she feels the same way in that she feels bad for moving on, but has to get on with things and her life |
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Is she not willing to remain friends even though she moved?
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