[Fuzzybear]

I read somewhere that there is a “core of Narcissism” in BPD...

Have others read this..

Do you agree with it?

I’m almost certain I do not have a Narcissistic core..

But I haven’t been officially diagnosed with this...

I stay as far away from doctors as I can

After decades of being hurt by them

UK..

[AzulOscuro]

You bring this topic opportunely for me bc this morning I was thinking about the core of Bpd again.
I already asked and wrote a thread about it where I pasted a video by Dr. Grande where he claims the hypothesis, also defended by other authors he mentions in the same video.
At the beginning, of this video that I’m gonna post here again, he makes reference to another previous one he recorder where he replied to a question about the core of Narcissism.

I only watch the one about borderline bc I know even when both disorders may have apparently some common manifestation, the core is very different.
In the case of bpd, I see what Dr Grande says and I think he’s right.
This morning I woke up not only with the knowledge bc I already knew the knowledge but also bc I had the opportunity to experiment it by myself lately.
I’m convinced that instability in all each borderline manifestations or symptoms are due to a weak sense of self what takes to a feeling of emptiness, fear of abandonment on behalf of people who are meaningful for us and the efforts we may do to avoid this abandonment is also due to not having clear a sense of self that we complete somehow by having these people in our lives. Guess how painful is to lose one of these people. It feels as if a part of our own self is being torn.
I know it’s very sad bc someway, it feels like we are using people but at least, while we can notice, we can work on it. Maybe, it’s a way to reach out the truth and build real and healthy connections with other people.
Consider that it’s only my opinion, I base on some researchers and some of the replies I read here.

Sorry, for the long reply.
Here are the videos:

The core of bpd ( video by Dr. Grande)

What causes Narcissism PD? (video by Dr. Grande)

Now, the question is why a person doesn’t develop a stable or have a fragile sense of self. I’m currently following the hypothesis of struggling to learn healthy patterns of mentalization by Peter Fonagy. I’m still learning about that hypothesis.

[AzulOscuro]

I forgot to mention that a person with Narcissistic personality disorder knows who is but he didn’t like it so they invent a new persona.

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

I forgot to mention that a person with Narcissistic personality disorder knows who is but he didn’t like it so they invent a new persona.

Thank you for this post. I’ve been abused by Narcissists. This makes a lot of sense.

[AzulOscuro]

Indeed, none of the PDs is a gift from Heaven, just to say it someway.
The lack of empathy and the sense of entitlement narcissists have, makes them dangerous for people around them. As much they could feel shame if you dare to question the marvellous mask they wear and they may feel range and angriness to make you pay for what you did.