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Default Feb 28, 2021 at 09:31 PM
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I was in love with this guy for months but he didn’t want a relationship. Unfortunately that didn’t stop me from being in love with him & trying to cover it up by being his friend. I was the one he’d call with his problems & we’d talk every day. It would kill me not to be his but at least he was around right? He is definitely my favorite person & I shape my whole life around him. Well 2 days ago he tells me he has a girlfriend & he’s not sure he can be friends with me anymore because of it. I’ve been bawling my eyes out ever since & it feels like the world is collapsing around me. The thought of him with someone else makes me hyperventilate. I feel so crazy for feeling this way but it’s the strong emotions at play for sure. I just feel like all I am is an emotional cushion for guys until they find someone they really want. I’ve barely moved in 2 days & feel crippled by this. Anyone been through this too & have any advice? Much appreciated.
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Default Feb 28, 2021 at 11:19 PM
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Dear Annairok,

I'm so sorry that happened to you. How heartbreaking! Something like that happened to me before. Actually it happened more than once, sadly. Don't even know how I got through it. Wish I knew what to say to ease your pain.

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Default Mar 03, 2021 at 11:42 AM
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People can most definitely be "users" and it's an unfortunate reality. The lesson in this for you is to not give your heart away to someone who doesn't appreciate it the way you secretly want them to. You are people pleasing too much and it's hurting you. You can't make someone love you.
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Default Mar 06, 2021 at 01:32 PM
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So, he had you to confide his problems and now that he has a girlfriend he wants to cut off his relation with you? Only this speaks out loud.
I know how difficult and sad is for you, because he was your “favourite person”, I know what it means, but he wanted to put you aside, apart from his life. I know how hard it is for a “normal” person and I know it’s five times more difficult for a person with bpd, but kick it *** quite far from your life.

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Default Jul 04, 2021 at 08:21 PM
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I'm sorry that your fp did this.
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