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Default May 05, 2022 at 05:50 AM
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How do I give someone space when they ask for it? How do I suppress that urge to "fix" everything by talking when in actuality I will risk smothering them?

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Default May 08, 2022 at 09:22 AM
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I am exactly the same way. I just pushed my ex gf away many times when she ask for it. I even knew I was doing it. I have found much help focusing on my codendancies. Its my main focus and its helped. I attend support groups, read, and get help from a therapist. I have also looked into anxious attachment styles as well.

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How do I give someone space when they ask for it? How do I suppress that urge to "fix" everything by talking when in actuality I will risk smothering them?
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I'd look into anxious attachment styles.
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Default May 12, 2022 at 02:49 PM
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I'd look into codependence.

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