Is my support system done with me?

I usually reach out to people whenever I am struggling and this time around no one has messaged me back or wanted to talk to me it seems like. I can see that whenever I text people, they read the messages, but they never respond. I also was told by someone in my support system that I shouldn't talk to other people my age (I am 17) and that I should reach out to adults. So, I have started doing that more. After a while, the adults that I messaged would stop responding to me and now I just think it's better if I told my therapist and psychiatrist during my appointments what is going on.

They're probably not "done" with you, but right now they could just not have the resources to support you. Since you're posting in the borderline subforum, I'm going to assume your team and you strongly believe you have if not are diagnosed with BPD (a dx under 18 is pretty rare). It presents differently in everyone depending on what traits are there and to what extent, but I know I've driven a lot of people to their limits by constantly putting myself in crisis usually just to see if they really care. I got hit hard when I had a FP tell me he was seeing I was trying to keep him close, but I was actually driving him away.

I pretty much stopped reaching out to people in an acute crisis situation. My treatment team is pretty good at answering my calls or calling back and talking me into distracting myself until I cool down enough to be able to really use the skills they're teaching me. I typically rely on them when I'm trying to avoid acting on some strong harmful urge.

But yeah, I doubt they're done, but maybe as the intensity of your struggles arise, seek help from psychiatrists/therapists/hotlines instead of giving them a task they shouldn't and probably can't handle. Tbh with BPD we probably need more support than the average person can give. Emotions and panic frequently hit like a tidal wave and make you feel like you could drown. I'd say if it's more of a regular wave that's when you ask someone if they're up for a bit of a chat--not even about what's bothering you or anything, but something to get your mind off of things. People like banter about their kids, pets, funny stories, music, books, food, etc. Know your audience and try to get support in a way that is mutually beneficial. But yeah, relationships work both ways and people with BPD tend to have more empathy and understanding than most so when you can take advantage of that, use it to help those who have stuck by you because they damn well deserve it.