[cryingontheinside]

When I was a child and teenager I experienced emotional and physical abuse from my mother . I also experienced abuse from other family and non family members . However I had come to terms with the abuse from my mum because she improved drastically with age . Recently due to personal reasons myself and my children had to stay at my mum's house for a few weeks. She is under alot of stress and has anxiety . However her behaviour has been a nightmare and has triggered me with memories from her past abuse. She has been screaming and shouting and saying some emotionally hurtful things as well as making false accusations and bad mouthing us on the phone Infront of us and indirectly on social media . The worse thing is that she is aware of her behaviour and thinks she has a right to act that way . It's triggered me so much and I'm still at her house and I'm so affected . I can't wait to go home . How can I keep the past in the past when she is returning to her old ways ?

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

When I was a child and teenager I experienced emotional and physical abuse from my mother . I also experienced abuse from other family and non family members . However I had come to terms with the abuse from my mum because she improved drastically with age . Recently due to personal reasons myself and my children had to stay at my mum's house for a few weeks. She is under alot of stress and has anxiety . However her behaviour has been a nightmare and has triggered me with memories from her past abuse. She has been screaming and shouting and saying some emotionally hurtful things as well as making false accusations and bad mouthing us on the phone Infront of us and indirectly on social media . The worse thing is that she is aware of her behaviour and thinks she has a right to act that way . It's triggered me so much and I'm still at her house and I'm so affected . I can't wait to go home . How can I keep the past in the past when she is returning to her old ways ?

Are you able to tell her she is triggering you?
Would this matter to her?

I am sorry you are going through this.

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Are you able to tell her she is triggering you?
Would this matter to her?

I am sorry you are going through this.

I'm at her house by her choice yet she is annoyed of my presence and my children's presence . She thinks she has a right to act this way. Her iPad got lost and she thought we stole it . When we found it it was not charging so she said we broke it . I never touched it and neither did my kids. The charger not going in is because of her own fault forcing it in too hard and would only cost 20 pounds to fix . She has behaved so badly and made me feel so low and I just remember it's like before. Maybe it was worse before but she has no right to act like this . She told me as well that she's not happy that I defend myself and that my elder daughter defends her self. She said I don't really have mental health and my daughter doesn't have autism because we defend ourselves . So she doesn't want us to defend ourselves just to let her bully us which I won't accept .

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

When I was a child and teenager I experienced emotional and physical abuse from my mother . I also experienced abuse from other family and non family members . However I had come to terms with the abuse from my mum because she improved drastically with age . Recently due to personal reasons myself and my children had to stay at my mum's house for a few weeks. She is under alot of stress and has anxiety . However her behaviour has been a nightmare and has triggered me with memories from her past abuse. She has been screaming and shouting and saying some emotionally hurtful things as well as making false accusations and bad mouthing us on the phone Infront of us and indirectly on social media . The worse thing is that she is aware of her behaviour and thinks she has a right to act that way . It's triggered me so much and I'm still at her house and I'm so affected . I can't wait to go home . How can I keep the past in the past when she is returning to her old ways ?

I honestly don’t know how you could. Personally, I would not stay with her again if that’s at all possible.

how long are you at her house for?

I hope not long for your sake.

sounds like she's being really nasty

[cryingontheinside]

I finally got home . Thx for the replies