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I wonder if the persistent feeling of emptiness I have is related to Childhood Emotional Neglect. Can anyone relate?
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There's another post on this subject in this forum. Here is the reply I wrote to that thread:
"I guess I don't really know what extreme emptiness would feel like. Because of the various issues I've dealt with all of my life I have lived with what is, perhaps, something that may be similar? I guess I would call it confusion, fear, lack of "belongingness"... never feeling as though I fit in anywhere, never really having any real sense of who I am. As I have written a number of times, here on PC, I learned very early in life (I don't know how) there were things about myself I must never talk about. And so I never did." "I also have to say I don't really know as it would be appropriate for me to claim to have been the victim of CEN. Way back when I was young, at least where I grew up, there was no such thing. Children were to be seen & not heard. We just grew up. And whatever happened... happened. It would never have occurred to anyone that there could even be such as thing as CEN. But, then, that could be said of a number of other things that have been relevant to my life as well." For as far back as I can recall at this point, I've had the sense there is something akin to a "black hole" at the center of my psyche... a great fearsome void. And the other parts of my consciousness [as well as perhaps my "non-consciousness" (?)] are like the debris that swirls around an astronomical blackhole in its event horizon. As I wrote above, I don't know if that was the result of CEN. No such concept existed way back when I was young. And I've never really thought of myself as having been emotionally neglected. But I don't know. And it's too late to figure it all out now. I hope that, in some way, you will be able find a way to fill your persistent emptiness. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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If I had known better I wouldn't have married the guy I did because he was just like my parents totally incapable of emotionally connecting & I thought that was NORMAL. It wasn't till I finally got out of that marriage & my dog Leo was the one that taught me what emotionally connecting felt like. From there I was able to learn & experience it with the wonderful NEW people who are now in my life after moving 2100 miles away to a place where I knew no one. It was actually like having a second chance at life. At first I felt uncomfortable feeling & it was fleeting & unsure until I gained trust in the people in my life (for really the first time) & I felt safe being me. That "empty" feeling of not connecting at anything but a surface level has left me. I still have some people I connect at that level with but most people in my life have helped me change that feeling to a "warm fuzzy" feeling of care __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Being emotionally neglected means with have no emotional regulation. Our emotional vocabulary is lacking. Much love to you mountainstream |
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You know you're suffering from Childhood Emotional Neglect when you feel as though you're an alien on Earth yearning for connectedness, and feeling understood, but you feel like you don't belong anywhere, and that no one will understand you. And inside your chest area you feel like you have a hole that's begging to be filled with love and understanding. Basically, it's like living with a broken heart every day. __________________ Want some tips on overcoming low-self esteem, Childhood Emotional Neglect or improving yourself? Check my blog! https://authenticyou93.blogspot.com/ |
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