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Wisest Elder Ever
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#1
I’m done with hating myself because so many abusers have hated me and chosen to intentionally abuse me
I have many good qualities .... as almost everyone I know also has many good qualities It is not my “ego” that I love .... I’m not interested in “pleasing” those who enjoy judging Love to all here __________________ |
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#2
Thanks for this, Fuzzy. Hating and criticizing ourselves is abusing ourselves. We need to treat ourselves as if we were a dear friend....with love and kindness.
"With self-kindness, we soothe and calm our troubled minds. We make a peace offering of warmth, gentleness, and sympathy from ourselves to ourselves, so that true healing can occur. " - Kristin Neff |
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We are lovable...
It takes practice But I feel a little less empty when I love my inner being... Much love to all who practice self love Much love to all those who struggle to love themselves too |
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I'm sorry that you are struggling right now! Have you thought about practicing self care. Home spa?
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Hey, Fuzzybear,
Good to see you taking that necessary step towards inner peace (loving yourself). Sadly, as long as you keep on hating yourself you'll keep on attracting people who will reflect that self-hatred back at you. Relationships are our mirrors, and the only way to change that reflection that keeps on appearing in our relationships is by changing the way we treat ourselves first. Self-care really helps a lot with that, so you should really look into that. (In fact, you just gave me inspiration to write a new article for my blog, so thanks for that ) __________________ Want some tips on overcoming low-self esteem, Childhood Emotional Neglect or improving yourself? Check my blog! https://authenticyou93.blogspot.com/ |
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I didn't like the person I had become living in the environment (marriage) I was living in. I had become a very ANGRY person & definitely not even the kind of person I would want to be around. When I finally left, I was able to find the me I had lost after so many years of fighting. I guess in reality, I loved myself enough to get out of where I was because it gave me the peace to stop fighting & being angry at everyone & everything around me. It has taken years & good therapy, but I learned just how much effect our environment has on our personality when we feel trapped. Fight or flight.....I usually chose FIGHT & it is so nice to not feel that way any longer. I still stand up for myself but seldom ever feel the need to fight any more & really like the me I had lost after so many years
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Hi Fuzzy,next time someone tries to judge you,reply thus: "Judge me when you're perfect!"
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