[Gladeye]

I've read articles, bought the book, and listened to podcasts about Childhood Emotional Neglect, but what I really want now is other people who experienced it to talk to.

Forums are helpful, but Is there a way for our kind to talk to communicate more easily - chat rooms, emailing, meetups? I'm in Los Angeles and haven't found any kinds of CEN group meetings.

An opportunity to meet other CEN people for dating would be pretty great too. Can anyone here recommend any resources for talking to and/or meeting others our kind?

[CANDC]

Hi Gladeye. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you suffered from CEN.

I am not personally aware of support groups but these may be of interest
Los Angeles Support Groups - Therapy Groups Los Angeles, Los Angeles County, California - Counseling Groups Los Angeles, Los Angeles County, California

4 Ways to Begin to Recover from Childhood Emotional Neglect | Psychology Today

Recovering from Childhood Neglect

Invisible, Powerful Childhood Emotional Neglect

38 Daily Affirmations For Healing Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

[eskielover]

An opportunity to meet other CEN people for dating would be pretty great too.

Hmmmm....just a thought....maybe it would be better to date people who have grown up in a healthy environment but who are sympathetic to those who haven't.

The reason I say this is because I married a dysfunctional guy even though I saw the red flags because I really didn't recognize them because they looked enough different from what I grew up with that they weren't obviously the same.

It wasn't until after both my parents died & I left my bad marriage & moved away & was finally surrounded by less dysfunction that it finally hit me just how totally dysfunctional my life had been because my choices even though I fought for them to be different were still under dysfunction because it was all I was surrounded by & all I had known.

It is wonderful to be around those with the same struggles to talk about & to validate & compair....but there is a whole other life out there that does not have to be tied to the fact that we went through CEN.

Sometimes if we surround ourselves ONLY by people who have gone through what we have, we miss out on a whole different level of learning & growth

I experienced it by my mother no end (to the point where other people such as police had to be involved)

here if you need to talk about it

[TheReverse]

Unfortunately I'm in DC so we can't meet up. Have you tried meetup.com? You can make meetups for whatever you want. A CEN meetup would be great, if people are willing to come forward at least.

I agree with Eskielover, as far as dating people who grew up in a healthy environment because it will help you heal. As far as talking to/confiding in friends who grew up in healthy, normal environments and can't relate, I disagree. Don't do it. Many times, they lack compassion and just can't relate and it ends up creating a rift in the relationship. You're viewed as exhausting, someone who always has issues, and often times they can't handle that. It's better to befriend support groups/people that experienced CEN as you're trying to do. Or, a therapist if you can afford one.

[Fuzzybear]

I experienced this. thanks for the thread

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks CANDC for these links

4 Ways to Begin to Recover from Childhood Emotional Neglect | Psychology Today

Recovering from Childhood Neglect

Invisible, Powerful Childhood Emotional Neglect

38 Daily Affirmations For Healing Your Childhood Emotional Neglect[/QUOTE]