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Default Mar 26, 2020 at 03:02 PM
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Do you remember having fantasies about being loved and taken care of growing up? I remember fantasizing about that a lot while lying in bed at night. I guess I must have been around 7 or so. It was never about my parents, always just imaginary people and stories that I made up in my head.
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Default Mar 26, 2020 at 08:31 PM
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That is how you practiced self soothing. Nothing wrong with that, it helped you survive.
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Do you remember having fantasies about being loved and taken care of growing up? I remember fantasizing about that a lot while lying in bed at night. I guess I must have been around 7 or so. It was never about my parents, always just imaginary people and stories that I made up in my head.
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Default Aug 03, 2020 at 04:30 PM
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I think that that (or similar) helped us to survive

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Default Aug 04, 2020 at 01:37 AM
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My fantasies were all about finding some place to survive on my own. As a six year old I had a fantasy that I would runaway and live at school. There was a little alcove by my classroom where I would sleep at night, and I would wash in the bathrooms during the school day. I would steal lunches during the day so I would have food nd I would pretend to leave at the end of the school day so non-one would know I was living at the school. I found a spot where I thought I could safely keep blankets too.
Another fantasy was building myself a hut out of driftwood and living at a private beach across the farm from our home.
There were quite a few holes in my plans. But, I never could even imagine that anybody could ever love or look after me. I just wanted to be away from people so they couldn't hurt me.
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Default Aug 05, 2020 at 06:29 PM
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I had childhood fantasies but they weren't like others have shared.

I would fantasize that I was in a desperate situation that would put me into a state of giving up on life (either physical or emotional). then someone would enter this story that would try to convince me that life was worth living and that I was worth saving.

I'm so sorry if this triggers someone. I have had these dark thoughts for so long. I have tried to find a therapist who would stick with me with no success. Not sure where to turn at this point except to maybe open up to folks about what is really going on with me.

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My fantasies were all about finding some place to survive on my own. As a six year old I had a fantasy that I would runaway and live at school. There was a little alcove by my classroom where I would sleep at night, and I would wash in the bathrooms during the school day. I would steal lunches during the day so I would have food nd I would pretend to leave at the end of the school day so non-one would know I was living at the school. I found a spot where I thought I could safely keep blankets too.
I had this exact same fantasy!!
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I would fantasize that I was in a desperate situation that would put me into a state of giving up on life (either physical or emotional). then someone would enter this story that would try to convince me that life was worth living and that I was worth saving.
I thought about similar things - mostly my parents dying in some freak accident (I never dwelled too much on that part) and me going to a foster home where the parents would always be there for me and have those same kinds of talks. As I got older I started picturing myself more in an orphanage where I'd be like a mother to the younger kids and make them feel loved by playing my favorite songs for them on the guitar. One would become like my little sister and get adopted with me into whatever home chose us.
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I thought about similar things - mostly my parents dying in some freak accident .
I had that same fantasy, too! When they were out I had fantasies of the police knocking on the door to say they had been killed in an accident.
Whenever I heard their car pulled into the driveway my heart sank and the dread returned to the pit of my stomach.

Later on I did spend several years in a foster home where I nurtured the younger children and looked out for them. Sadly the foster parents were no better than the other parents. I tried to protect the younger children from their abuse but I failed. I tried so hard to help one boy who had been horribly abused in his own home before the foster home, but I found out a few years after I left that he didn't survive.

People are ****.
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Default Nov 19, 2020 at 10:48 AM
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I always wished that I was fostered.

I always used to think about all the cool fun things I might do if I had a diffrent family, a family who loved me and wanted me

as a child I also watched a lot of the story of tracy beaker so would think about her life a lot, and how much it's better than mine

(I still do, think about being fostered I mean)

I don't know if it would have been better, I mean you don't do you until you're their... but my mother was a monster.
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Default Nov 19, 2020 at 10:50 AM
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I still read foster novels to this day and feel so envious of how the foster carers treatg the kids, with love and respect
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Default Sep 25, 2021 at 09:03 PM
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My fantasies were about living with a different family than mine, like several of the people I babysat for in my early teens. Their homes were so warm and loving. The children were clearly adored, individually valued, understood, and very much wanted. There was never any yelling; the kids were very well-behaved. There was always plenty of love to go around.

Wow. Talk about what a difference it would have made, growing up in an atmosphere like that!

When I was an older teen, but still living at home, I dreamt a lot about living on my own. If it was a tent by some water, I would have taken it. But I used to stare at homes for sale, and wonder what the rooms were like inside. From really tiny houses to very large, expansive places, I fantasized about living in all of them.
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