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This information belongs in this forum so those who suffered can get validated that it can genuinely hurt.
Parents shouting at kids ‘can lead to brain development problems’ |
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I remember many, many times when my mother shouted at me. in most cases it was because of my mental illness, and she hated it- used say or kind of things, like when I'd overeat not this **** again, or when I'd hear voices tell me to just stop acting thick.
their were also plenty of times where she shouted at me for things that wern't my fault. once when the washing machine broke she shouted wel, if you didn't get your clothes dirty, we wouldn't have to use the ****ing machine in the first place and it wouldn't be broken. weird that she thought like that |
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Well, it's not always being the one who is shouted at, but also witnessing parents shout at each other.
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My mother had unpredictable bursts of anger, which you could never see coming (until I was a slightly more experienced teenager; and then, I found every excuse to get out of the house, as soon as my chores were done, as much as possible).
In my experience, I think this led to a fairly large mistrust of other women-in-general type of issue. It made me pretty strong, but I was also very isolated. And I remain very, very selective about who I allowed to get close to me, as friends. If I catch the first whiff of a superiority complex, or gossipy, twofaced nastiness, I'm outta there. Those are the weapons of small minds, and we underestimate them at our peril. |
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![]() I am also absolutely NOT a fan of those women who have a Superiority Complex and gossipy, two faced nastiness. I totally agree, they are the weapons of SMALL minds. Well put. My mother was very similar, a covert Narcissist and I was ''all bad'' and ''the source of all her pain'' in her disordered mind ![]() Apparently, the abusive Paternal Unit who called her a ''pack horse'' and married a sociopath when I was 8 and was a pathological liar..... was not even part of the cause of her pain and lack of appreciation or respect for me...yeah right. ![]() ![]() Writing this has me a bit angry and I will refrain from editing it as I am not ''just a very quiet person'' __________________ ![]() |
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You all know that being selective about who you allow into your life IS A GOOD TRAIT. I have noticed that those who don't limit have a lot more issues in their life than those who do. That was a good thing to learn.
I have always been selective though sometimes after the fact rather than before....but I remove those who mess with my peaceful life & don't let them close if I sense that in their personalities. Learned long ago that I can be nice to people without making them a best friend or anything more than a casual acquaintance __________________ ![]() Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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My mother also had bursts of rage; you never knew when it would happen. Fortunately, I have wonderful women friends....who I would trust with my life. I also am very careful about who I allow into my life....I joined the army right out of high school and never went back. My mother contacted the Red Cross because I rarely contacted her,LOL
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Shouting at a child should never, I mean never - for any reason - happen. No child should ever, ever have to have its life minimized by being shouted at.
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My mom would shout at me a lot when she was angry at someone else. I didn't shout back, so was an easy scapegoat. My parents also shouted at each other, and my brother did (and still does) shout at everyone. Distancing myself has helped.
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In my case beatings happened for no apparent reason.I looked like my mom had to unload on me.
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Correction of a sentence in my post above.Please read as...It looked like my mom had to unload on me...
I came back today and saw this mistake and there is no edit button,so I am writing this post. I wrote.. I.. instead of..it.. |
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Witnessing abuse causes a lot of damage in a child because they are powerless to stop it and can end up doing things they later regret. A child may learn they have to
Do certain things to avoid being a target. That becomes a survival skill but it doesn’t fix the abuse they witnessed that traumatized them. |
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There was no physical abuse in my family, but a lot of yelling. I was usually not the one being yelled at, but it still bothered me to witness it.
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In my case my sibling was actively encouraged and coerced by my mom.Mom used to encourage her to call me nasty names while she was very young and trying to learn speech. So at very young age she knew ,she could get away doing a lot of mischief. She used to spit on me and while I froze ,she used to smirk at me.She knew at a very tender age ,I have no one to turn to.She wrote graffiti in my books.I got in trouble in my school.The thing is I never knew it was her,until she told me recently and started laughing her b&tt off while I listened with bewilderment. I am not sure if she does it intentionally to retraumatize me.These are funny memories for her.Someone's trauma is a laughingstock to her.WOW,just wow.
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Yeah. My sister got into trouble a lot. I was the “good kid” cos I never talked back. I think maybe that made me the “weak kid” really. Once my sister got my dad so mad he took his belt off and just started swinging it at her. That might have happened only once or twice. I never got beat like that. My dad really mostly just yelled. But my sister could push his buttons for sure
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Parents' anger shows a negative impact on their children. It depends on the child's mentality, some children may feel fear and stress and some may become temper tantrums. This leads to mental changes in children and they develop some fear and stress in their minds, leading to the development of new disorders like autism, anxiety, etc. So, parents should act according to the mindset of their children.
Once the brain development disorders like autism and anxiety will develop in children’s minds, it will affect their personal life. |
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Hitting a child around the head probably also causes brain damage, that's partly where my trauma dyslexia came from I think
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I remember one year (I must of been about 9 at the time) I got yelled at and sent upstairs in disgrace on Christmas day - my "crime"? Vommitting all over the Christmas presents cause I had a stomach bug .....
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I remember lots of screaming and yelling in my early days. Not always at me, but sometimes. My dad was drunk a lot and at some point he had surgery and then went through opioid withdrawals which was awful on all of us (he threw a hatchet that landed close to my mother and me).
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