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I suffer from CEN. Manifested itself through anxiety, depression and alcoholism. For many years I was a pit of pure anger. I am getting better at controlling my anger but it still gets me in trouble. It is so exhausting now, I am really struggling. No one knows my background. Please help if any advice.
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Hi @Ellie987 - welcome to MSF My Support Forums. I am sorry you have suffered from anger.
I have been working on anger management for a long time so I do not think there are any easy fixes but mindfulness has helped me learn what the warning signs are before there is a blow out. Here are a few short youtube videos that I find helpful Ever Get Really Mad? How Mindfulness Helps In The Moment - YouTube Padraig O'Morain on Self-Compassion - YouTube Follow your breath not your thoughts - YouTube If you reply to my post please use the @ sign and my name: @CANDC so I get a reminder of your reply __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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Anger is something I am all too familiar with... anger at everything and everyone. But even more-so at myself. Mindfulness is helpful for me too. But I still find myself overwhelmed by my anger at times. You mentioned no one knows your background. There's a song by The Weepies I'm fond of titled: "Nobody Knows Me at All". It is true for me. Best wishes...
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since you are in the cen forum i am assuming your anger is from what happened, or didn't happen, to you, in childhood. one thing that might help is to try to understand why the people who raised you were the way they were. what were their childhoods like? no excuses though, just explanations. do keep to heart that nothing was your fault, and that how you were treated was not a mirror of who you are, but just an unfortunate manifestation from people who had their own issues. you really deserve to be happy. of course i know all this is much easier said than done.
i also think it is better to let your anger out. just yell into a pillow or punch it, or post more of your story. wishing you peace. __________________ "Think occasionally of the suffering of which you spare yourself the sight"~Albert Schweitzer |
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So Sorry for what you're going through! Please do not give up! i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about being So Sorry for your anger. Feel free to share more about how this anger began if you feel comfortable enough. Are you currently seeing a therapist? i feel like that may Help, especially if it's related to some particular experiences in your own Life. You may also learn some managing techniques that are new to you. It is good that you've improved, may i ask what has Helped you specifically? Perhaps it may be Useful to start from there. i Apologize if this post isn't Helpful or if it sounds condescending as i just wanted to help. i Hope things will improve soon for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Ellie987, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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I was actually seeing red by the time I left my now EX 14 years ago. I grew up with totally dysfunctional parents (though they never would have admitted it) then married a similar dysfunctional guy for a total of 54 years around dysfunction.
My dad died 18 years before my mom. My mom died in 2005 & it took me until 2007 to get the estate cleaned up & my mom's house sold so I could leave my marriage. I bought a small farm 2100 miles away. I was shocked how quickly my anger subsided leaving that environment completely. I still had a few issues when it "felt" like someone was intentionally causing issues in my life, but a wonderful therapist & 2 intense years in DBT, taught me much better skills at handling tough situations. Also not being around constant irritation 24/7 gave my mind a chance to start thinking way past aggravations & anger. It helped open my mind to better ways of resolving issues because I didn't have to work at getting rid of constantly being angry in response to what my H was constantly doing. Amazing transition. Now I have to be pushed prettier far before I get irritated. People know not to push me that far. My friends don't but have encountered a few who have & they have learned __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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