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I’m wondering whether anyone on the board, might be familiar with John Bradshaw’s inner child process that he describes in his book HOMECOMING. I’ve been working through the programme over the last year, and am currently working on the school going phase. PS: It’s hard work! As part of this process, I’m supposed to share my school age child history WITH A SUPPORT PERSON. Ideally it should be someone with whom I have a relationship, and who I can trust to be an empathetic witness, and validate my experience. Unfortunately I don’t have anyone in my circle at the moment who is available or capable of fulfilling that role for me. I can’t afford a therapist at this time. So I’m wondering if sharing my story here could be an option. Whilst not ideal, it feels better than not sharing at all. I’m also happy to be a work-buddy for other people on the forums who might be working this or similar programs. Please feel free to PM me. I’ll send through the detail in next message. Thanks in advance for your support. Eejya |
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I have DID, so I'm not there yet with that treatment, and I'm not sure if that treatment will ever be used on me. I feel as though it's hard to find a good trauma therapist during this traumatic pandemic, and many trauma therapists (like mine) seem to be doing more coping skills treatments than they are trauma processing treatments. It's like they aren't ready, even though we might be.
Given that observation, there is a notion that observers or listeners could get PTSD from secondary traumas, such as from being a therapist and listening to a bunch of traumas all day, or from well-meaning friends/family trying to help. It's always best when there's a support group, rather than depend on solely one person or even a few people - one at a time. That may create more stress and letdowns than the kind of supportive network you need for that kind of healing. And that kind of healing should be done with a trauma specialist, not alone. But if you must go it alone, due to the lack of therapists these days, then do find a Zoom-like or safe outdoors-but-in-person support group that can offer trauma healing and processing, or do find a therapist who can allow you to be part of their trauma groups. You can also try a support group here, but we are anonymous and not always available at the same time for specific groups. The lack of consistency won't do much good in terms of healing in that way. It's just some things to think about for you, the OP, as well as for those who might consider being your buddy. Use caution, do self-care, do set boundaries, and do realize that listening to and/or reading trauma many times might exacerbate mental health issues or even create PTSD in those who don't have it. It might be healing for some, but it's hard to truly say. Just be cognizant and mindful of those things when asking for that kind of help. This is particularly why it is important to have a licensed professional overseeing this level of work. |
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Dear SprinkL3
Thank-you for your comments. I appreciate your concern. PS I'm sorry, what is DID? |
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Hi all
As per my original post starting this thread, I'm posting below an overview of my experiences in the school-going stage (age 6-13 per J.Bradshaw guidelines). Age 6/7 – Grade 1
· Don’t recall anything specific Age 9/10 – Grade 4
· Excelling at school. Each year win all academic prizes. · Reading becomes my escape Age 13/14 – Grade 8
Thanks for reading. Given my family history, a part of me still feels disloyal posting these details here. My family would consider this to be a betrayal of the family rules. |
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