[BDPpartner]

I got injured at work nearly 2yrs ago, but only got a firm diagnosis 5 months ago. I have spinal degeneration and multiple disc problems. I'm constantly pill popping 3 different lots of pain meds which even my doctor tells me should be enough to kill a Rhino but they only take the edge off the pain. Family and friends are just fed up with me, i wince in pain and they roll they're eyes like i'm just some lazy cow that wants waiting on. What makes it worse is my partner has bpd and feels that if he can push himself to do things i should too. Any one got a magic wand ?

[Leed]

I feel your pain! I've been a chronic painer due to severe spinal problems for over 25 years, and getting family to understand is like trying to get a donkey to stand up when he wants to SIT. I continually hear "Well, maybe if you went for a ride, you'd feel better." Yeah right -- riding in a car is one of the WORST things for spinal patients! Or how about "Let's go shopping!" Ummm -- those cement floors in the malls just about put me in the hospital!! And you can NEVER find a scooter in those places cause all the old people have them. I don't own one myself cause I can still walk---if you can call it that.

I don't think my doctor even believes me! I've BEEN on Methadone plus the Fentanyl patches -- but I had to stop the patches because I started breaking out & itching. Did he give me anything to replace the patches??? Heck NO. Did I ask??? SURE! I'm only on 30mg of Methadone per DAY. And to say I'm in agony is putting it mildly -- yet he still won't give me any more -- and I've never had an increase either! Every month, he pokes my back to "make sure" I still hurt -- and I have almost falled off the table when he's done that. Plus it puts me in bed the rest of the day! I've told him that, but does it make any difference? Nope. And get this == I can't switch doctors cause he is the ONLY doctor in the WHOLE area who prescribes pain medications -- I've called every single doctor in 3 neighboring cities, and no one prescribes pain meds as they're afraid of the DEA.

So there's my sob story. LOL Sorry I got so long winded. Don't have anyone to talk to.

I know what you're going thru and I'm sorry. I wish I DID have a magic want for you. Try going to the site "DailyStrength" -- they have a "Letter to those without Chronic Pain" and you can print it out and give it to your husband! Go to the chronic pain site and ask them to post it. It's a dilly! God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[BDPpartner]

Thanks Lee i'll certainly be looking into printing off that letter. I am very fortunate that my Doctor is on my side but worrys what the long term affects of the meds will be. But i can't cope without them so rock and hard place. Just would be nice if my other half could show me the patients i show him. Wishful thinking lol

[BDPpartner]

Thank you I will definately look into that letter. I'm lucky my doctor is on my side, although he's concerned about the side affects of being on the meds long term. Especially as one of them causes temporary sterility, but i can't cope without them so needs must

[Travelinglady]

Gee, even I am tired of hearing myself complain about my back pain. At least my hubby and friends are understanding.

I, too, will check out that letter, though.

Are you a member of the chronic pain social group at PC? ('m too tired to check.) If not, then how about joining? We get together and commiserate about our various ailments!

I hope you do feel better soon. I know what you mean, having pain woes myself, about wanting to be able to do all the things people think will help us to feel better!

[choocha]

Yes, but I lent (spellcheck?) it to Kim Kardashian hehe. I have bad back probs too, and my doc is always astounded when i say the meds are not even touching the sides. No-one know till they've felt it the same. And I had someone with lower back issues tell me once that lower back pain was worse than upper. What tha? Misconceptions/stigma about chronic pain conditions shiit me, so I know how you feel. Sing out if you wanna whinge to someone xo

[misscath007]

Nope, no magic wand to give. Sorry for your pain, I can relate. I do think that taking that many pain meds might not be the healthiest thing, however. I also have multiple disc problems(back & neck) and suffer periodic migraines. I honestly think that people do get tired of hearing it although my family is supportive. Sometimes I just don't even bother complaining bc it serves no purpose. I find it's helpful to vent to other people who suffer from pain issues.

[J1b1a2]

I feel that way sometimes too. I've actually isolated myself this past year because I feel like I only have neg sad stuff to report back to home & family. I wish I could call someone up with good news for once, but I injured my neck and need to have surgery number 2 soon. I hope this forum helps fill the void by being surrounded by others who are also in pain, can relate, and truly understand what you're going through

[avoice]

after a long journey in pain management. Trying every opiate out there I decided to try the spinal cord neurostimulator. At first I hated it than it became my best friend. I'v had hand surgery, two back surgery. Foot surgery on both feet a broken ankle. I'v had so many surgery's I can't even add them up anymore.