[BobbyDavis]

Hi. I asked this question a couple of days ago on the wrong section and a member suggested that I post it here.

My Wife was diagnosed with endometriosis over a year ago and suffers from chronic pain some days and she is pregnant with our second child and is experiencing a lot of pain at the moment and I was wondering if there were any members on this forum that have endometriosis or are in a relationship with a partner with endometriosis and chronic pain and what are some ways you can help?

She has been through enough over the years but she has always been very strong and never backs down from anything. She is very protective of me because I have disabilities and I am protective of her too and it hurts me seeing her go through this because I love her so much and I just wish there was something I could do to take away her pain.

[Little Lulu]

I know what would help me ... just having a husband like you who cares, holding my hand, running a warm bath for me, rubbing my back or feet, telling me that you are there for me and love me. All of those things would take my pain level down several notches.

[CANDC]

I personally have not experienced it but there are many people who have posted on endometriosis
Forums at Psych Central - Search Results
not every entry is about endormetriosis but it is contained in each of these threads if you care to wade through the posts

[BobbyDavis]

Thank you for the advice.

I already do some of the things you suggested for my Wife Little Lulu and I do all the cooking, cleaning and washing here so she doesn’t have to worry about anything and she says she appreciates and she knows that I am here for her whenever she needs me. Some days Hailey gets very emotional and she cries and she tells me they are happy tears because I have been so supportive and she doesn’t know what she would do without me. I just want her to be happy because I hate seeing her in pain and I have been researching endometriosis and chronic pain more to get a better understanding of it but some of it is very technical and difficult to understand.

Thank you for the link CANDC

It didn’t work but I typed it into the search engine myself and I am going to look at the results.

[BobbyDavis]

Luck would have it I asked this question on another site and I got directed to some support forums for women that have Endometriosis and men that are in relationships with them and I have found out more about it than I knew before.

Thank you for trying to help me though.

[BDPpartner]

Tell your wife she is very courageous

I have chronic pain and back injury and I am terrified to try and conceive because I don't know if I would cope with the extra strain pregnancy would put on my body.

I have so much respect for your wife

[jacqulinej]

Originally Posted by BobbyDavis

Hi. I asked this question a couple of days ago on the wrong section and a member suggested that I post it here.

My Wife was diagnosed with endometriosis over a year ago and suffers from chronic pain some days and she is pregnant with our second child and is experiencing a lot of pain at the moment and I was wondering if there were any members on this forum that have endometriosis or are in a relationship with a partner with endometriosis and chronic pain and what are some ways you can help?

She has been through enough over the years but she has always been very strong and never backs down from anything. She is very protective of me because I have disabilities and I am protective of her too and it hurts me seeing her go through this because I love her so much and I just wish there was something I could do to take away her pain.

personally and asking other women and on facebook that touching is so healing, cuddleling, just even lightly rubbing the body. science says a woman needs 42 touches a day, just like putting hand on shoulder, just simple ones. and 16 hugs a day is healthy. at church this one lady hugged ppl for a long time and i wondered about it and one day she hugged me and must have prayed silently and just rubbing my back it took a few min. and man i did not realize all the tension i had when it left. good luck

[Wren_]

Luck would have it I asked this question on another site and I got directed to some support forums for women that have Endometriosis and men that are in relationships with them and I have found out more about it than I knew before.

Thank you for trying to help me though.

that's great you were able to get their input ... have you been able to put some of the ways to help to work for the two of you?

[BobbyDavis]

Thank you. I didn’t realise anybody else replied to this thread.

My Wife is the strongest person I have ever known and this is only one of the horrible things she has had to go through in her life. She was bullied growing up because she was advanced and ahead of all the other students at her old high school which led to her suffering from severe depression and even trying to commit suicide and then she was raped and got pregnant (with my stepdaughter) when she was 19 and despite what she has been through along with being diagnosed with Endometrioses and some other rare diseases she is a positive person and she likes helping other people.

Some of the things I have learned from other people have helped but they don’t exactly cure her and when she has bad days like today she gets tired and worn out very easily. Part of it I think is due to her being pregnant and after she was diagnosed with Endometrioses I expressed my concern to her about having another baby because I wasn’t sure if she could handle both but our plan was to have two children when we got married and she wanted to follow that through. She is very brave and she has told me she gets her strength from God and from me and she knows I will always be there for her and help her through everything.