Originally Posted by pegasus

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I ask you the same questions that I asked purple fins, why not just take a break rather than deleting your account?

there is not much more i can say but say once again I am sorry
I was scared pegs .................................
IM sorry I hurt ppl. With all my heart Im sorry.
I dont know what o say

[pegasus]

I hope you all realize that my intentions are good with this thread. I am wanting peace and harmony! I don't want well loved members to leave and I don't want the hurt that goes with it. Aren't we all family here?

I just had the idea that 'two strikes and your'e out' would deter people from making the rash decision of leaving etc. It does seem to me that some do leave/comeback etc as an emotional hold on others.

But in anycase this idea has been met with opposition on the most part so it's unlikely to be taken up by admin. I do feel it is good to discuss these things from time to time and I'm grateful for the opportunity.

Originally Posted by muffy

there is not much more i can say but say once again I am sorry
I was scared pegs .................................
IM sorry I hurt ppl. With all my heart Im sorry.
I dont know what o say

we posted at the same time pegs so you would see
and thats all i can say

[AAAAA]

A person in crisis is by definition unable to make rational decisions. I do think of us as a family which means allowing roots and wings, being compassionate and empathetic when loved ones do something I do not agree with and most of all, understanding that it’s not all about me and my needs.

I’m sure that you didn’t intend this thread to make people feel bad, but I’m also quite sure that those people that left didn’t do it to make you, or anyone else, you feel abandoned either.

I dont understand why it would upset anyone. There are a huge variety of reasons one might delete their account,perhaps they felt the site was too much to handle then got a chance to think about the good aspects,or thought they were moving and that fell through.Ppl with mh issues are unstable and need some understanding in regards to their ability to rethink a decision to leave and come back when things mellow out in their heads.Why does it bother you so much?

Originally Posted by muffy

we posted at the same time pegs so you would see
and thats all i can say

why should you be sorry?it isnt for anyone,to make you feel bad,you did nothing wrong

Originally Posted by pegasus

I hope you all realize that my intentions are good with this thread. I am wanting peace and harmony! I don't want well loved members to leave and I don't want the hurt that goes with it. Aren't we all family here?

I just had the idea that 'two strikes and your'e out' would deter people from making the rash decision of leaving etc. It does seem to me that some do leave/comeback etc as an emotional hold on others.

But in anycase this idea has been met with opposition on the most part so it's unlikely to be taken up by admin. I do feel it is good to discuss these things from time to time and I'm grateful for the opportunity.

im sure your intentions were good,but look at the trauma injected into muffy.that's uncalled for

Originally Posted by muffy

there is not much more i can say but say once again I am sorry
I was scared pegs .................................
IM sorry I hurt ppl. With all my heart Im sorry.
I dont know what o say

dont be sorry you are only human

[AAAAA]

I have been trying very hard to stay positive and supportive, all the while ignoring the huge white elephant in the room. Peg, you started this thread because something was bothering you and you needed to get this off your chest.

Well there’s something I have to get off mine. I give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that you didn’t mean this thread to be hurtful and it came from a place of pain and frustration, but the fact of the matter is that it is very hurtful. Maybe you really can’t see that in your quest for your version of harmony you’re creating hard feelings and making people feel very unwelcome.

Your message in this thread may very well be “I was hurt by your leaving, please don’t put me in that position again” but the message I for one am hearing is “you hurt me, and I’m going to punish you for it.”

Originally Posted by treesa

dont be sorry you are only human

(ty)))))(((treesa)))))))crying ((ty))
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[pegasus]

No a two strikes rule would act as a deterent not a punishment. Members would know where they stand and wouldn't be playing emotional games with other members. What really is so very difficult about just taking a break? Is it that it doesn't create the mayhem that deleting an account does? Doesn't cause the impact.

As I said before, my intention was to have everyones views on this idea, it's very clear that it has been received in a negative way, I accept that and it's fine. Not my decision anyway!

Would anybody else like to kick me?

Pegs
All as I can say once again is Im sorry. I was not playing games.
Im so sorry as i have said over and over again if i have hurt anyone.
To everyone at pc Im sorry.
not much more i can say. I have asked for forgiveness.
muffy

[DfendrOfEmilysHeart]

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I can see both sides in this thread. Yes, Pegs might have hurt other members and that's not a good thing, but can't anyone realise she started this thread because she was hurting herself?

Originally Posted by WarmSeptemberSun

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I can see both sides in this thread. Yes, Pegs might have hurt other members and that's not a good thing, but can't anyone realise she started this thread because she was hurting herself?

I think this is so true. There is hurt on both sides.

[wanttoheal]

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I'm going to close this thread until the team here can discuss what needs to be done. Please all take gentle self care.

[DocJohn]

While I appreciate the idea and feedback, we have no intention of implementing any type of "strikes" policy rule for members who want to leave the community. While I appreciate some of the well-meaning sentiment behind this proposal, it's not something I agree with, sorry.

Members are free to come and go as they please from our community (unless they've been banned).

DocJohn