[Sabrina]

I received a Visitor Message from a long standing member here. The message came through from what I can see, however, it stated on the message that the message was being moderated.

Now I can't get rid of the notification.

Why would a long standing member have to have a moderated visitor message? And why can't I clear my notifications. Now I can't see my mood

[**Angel**]

Dunno what it is, but wanted to give you s

[Sabrina]

Can a moderator please moderate this message so that I can get rid of the notification. The notification reads "Profile Visitor Message Awaiting Approval"

[Sabrina]

Thanks, it's gone now.

[FooZe]

I'm pretty sure you have controls at the bottom of your Visitor Messages page that allow you to moderate, delete, etc., VMs on your own profile.

I'm not sure if visitors to your profile will be able to see a moderated VM before it's been approved by the mods, but approving should allow you to read it and clear the notification for you.

I already approved that particular VM so you'll have to try this out next time. The controls at the bottom (and the little checkboxes for selecting messages) should always be there, though. Let me know if that's not so -- I don't see your profile quite the same way you do.

[Sabrina]

I see the moderation box at the bottom. I didn't even know that was there.

What I would like to know is why the message had to be moderated in the first place? This member has been here for years.

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by Sabrina

I see the moderation box at the bottom. I didn't even know that was there.

Thank you. I vaguely remembered that I'd seen it even before I was a mod. I don't always remember which of the controls that I'm accustomed to seeing now, I could also see then.

What I would like to know is why the message had to be moderated in the first place? This member has been here for years.

We sometimes make such arrangements with a member for various reasons. I hope you'll understand if we don't go into any detail.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Sabrina

I see the moderation box at the bottom. I didn't even know that was there.

What I would like to know is why the message had to be moderated in the first place? This member has been here for years.

Sabrina maybe I can help you with this. Ive been here I think for two years now and Im moderated. I have chosen to remain under the help of the moderating team.

Sometimes the best way the moderation team can help people is to know what posts/threads they are replying to and help the person replying reword things from their normal cultural background thoughts and wording to the wording that is world wide here on psych central.

when I first came here to psych central two years ago it was kind of like taking someone raised in japan and plopping them down in the center of Germany. sometimes its best to have that mediator who can help that person through the culture shock where everyone on the site is getting upset because you are not fitting in and your getting frustrated because all these people around the world are jumping on you because the word you used means one thing to you but another to everyone else. in this sense it just made sense for me to go back on moderation.

it also made sense from my perspective to remain moderated because I am a therapist. Therapists are human some times we can end up saying things in a more harsh way then expected. plus this being a mental health website where theres bound to be mental health clients who have had adverse dealings when it comes to therapists, well lets just say I have noticed its uniform with all mental health websites that sometimes theres a bit of transference where website members upset with their treatment providers can sometimes strike out at those treatment providers in the mental health website instead of taking it to the person they are really upset with. both those situations on both sides of me as a therapist and me as a client in therapy I wanted the assurance that my posts were those that didnt accidentally contain being overly harsh or containing transference issues.

with staying moderated I have a less stressful experience here because the moderators see my replys and what Im posting to before my reply is put on the boards for all to see. The moderators let me know if I misunderstood the post Im replying to, and need to rethink / re write my reply before the moderators place them on the boards for me. By the time my posts are placed on the boards both the moderators and I can be assured my posts are ok.

my choosing to stay moderated doesnt mean every one of my posts are going to be accepted by everyone that is a member here. everybody has their own triggers, good days bad days and what they are willing to hear and from who and how.. Im the same way. this is where the ignore feature comes in with with me.

where the ignore feature helps with this situation of posts and posters rubbing me the wrong way, staying moderated helps the moderators and I to know my posts are correct by the standards set here.

being under moderation at some websites means the person has done something wrong but here it doesnt necessarily mean that. for some of us like me we have chosen to remain under moderation for our own self care and sense of well being.

[Sabrina]

I understand, thank you!