[H3rmit]

Originally Posted by Perna

. . .would have been nice if I'd gotten a PM or notice (someone taking responsibility for ignoring another) saying, "hey, don't know why but your posts really bother me, I'm putting you on ignore".

Different strokes. I don't need the irony of someone PMing me to tell me they need to ignore me. I ignored a couple of people because how and what they post, that where they are coming from bothers me quite a bit. I blocked some forums for the same reason. I have my own disturbing stuff to deal with, and I have limits of what I want to be exposed to or what I can cope with. That's fair. I read fast and my eyes catch things fast. I can't skip over long or frequent posts easily. I'd have to avoid the thread, and I may not want to do that.

I agree with BnB that I'd rather they are not blocked from responding but just blocked from my view, but that's not how it is. I'm not in charge of the site, and I can live with that imperfection.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

thanks. as one that uses and advocates for the ignore feature as a self care tool I have been wondering when this step would be taken. on the positive side its a great idea.

on the negative side....well people have been wanting (me included) and some have been asking for a way to tell when they are on someone elses ignore list...now they have one..

all a person needs to do is try posting in someones thread / post and if the post doesnt go through or they get a notice saying they dont have access to that thread they now know someone, possibly their friend has them on ignore...but they dont know whether its because they offended the person or if that person is having a bad day and must limit who and what they see that day for their own well being..

I can see many people possibly getting hurt by this if they dont have the ability to see this as a self care tool, not a paranoia symptom of losing a friendship, someone doesnt like me and other negative thoughts that can come with receiving conformation that someone is not reading, seeing or paying attention to them when a persons mental disorder symptoms are activated, they have abandonment issues and other issues around needing people to listen and be heard.

I want to say now that when I put someone on ignore (and I do so frequently depending upon how I am feeling that day, how much time I have for reading /replying to posts at that moment and whether this member and I have already discussed the same issue many times where they want me to make a change that is not possible with in my posts. )

my placing someone on the ignore list, shutting off their ability to reply to me is not about whether I like someone or not, and other paranoid ideas that mental disorders, symptoms and life issues can cause a person to think when they get confirmation that someone is ignoring them.

thanx good info and answer. also i think that it does for sure help to remember not to take personally tho sometimes hard to do

Originally Posted by anneo59

thanx good info and answer. also i think that it does for sure help to remember not to take personally tho sometimes hard to do

I take everything personally...it's the nature of my MH issues...though I'm working very, very hard to get better at it and I don't use that as an excuse for anything...it's just the way that I am.