What are you supposed to do if someone goes out of their way to push your buttons but its too subtle for anyone but you to notice? Like if someone goes to the threads you post on and purposely negates everything you say?

It's sort of a form of bullying yet its done in an underhanded way. I know this is a forums for peoole with mental health problems that can lead to those behaviors, so i guess its not a safe place for some of us who experienced violence and other traumas from people who also did things like gaslight us.

Irs extremely triggering and i cant block people. I guess i have ptsd so bad i cant be safe here. Its been so bad lately. Not sure if i can report this.

It's more than 1 person.

Its starting to feel like im being stalked by them, but in a subtle way that others wouldnt notice.

Example is when you write about a trauma because, well it was traumatizing and its still affecting you. Lets say you were walking down a dark street and got attacked, so you talk about it here. Then people on the thread start posting' "i walked down a dark street many times and never got attacked". Then the same people 'like' the posts that negate you. Amd these people may not post often but always seem to appear or come around when there is an opportunity to put you down, invalidate or gaslight you.

[SeekerSeeking]

Yes, it is a form of bullying or passive-aggressiveness.

The bottom line is that we cannot control another person’s behavior—we can only control our response. It will happen here, on Facebook, snapchat, and in real life. Human interaction is messy—so don’t be afraid of this forum—it can happen anywhere. The trick is to learn what to do about it.

So, someone who bullies—feeds on your upset. So, don’t give them that satisfaction—starve the bully. Not always easy, but can be done…

You know what this person is up to…you know who they are---and most people reading the posts will eventually figure it out. So, this person is showing everyone who he/she is—let him/her do that. They will be shining a not so pleasant light on themselves.

If you can block this person. But the best thing is to hit the ignore button. Since you know what they are up to—it’s no surprise—it’s a big YAWN. They really need to get some new material, huh?

Just be you—know that most folks are going to respond with kindness—and let the bully get bored and move on outta here!

I was attacked twice at work and had PTSD for quite a long time. I’m better now, and work to stay healthy. So I understand how you feel. Don’t let the little mind of a negating bully impact you. Don’t let someone’s bad behavior change your good behavior…

[FallDuskTrain]

Yes, this behavior should not happen on a mental health site, I agree. While it might be considered as an expected/average behavior on Facebook, it definitely does not belong here; however, you cannot control their actions but you can put them in the ignore box.
If they are doing this to you, it is likely that they are doing it to other members. In any event, when a member displays such behavior, I put them ignore and I do not engage with them.
You stay true to your heart and mind, engage with those who genuinely care and love. These is lots of good support and wisdom on PC; most people carry intense suffering yet they wake up each morning and fight. Engage with those who carry a classy heart and ignore those who chose to remain mediocre.

Thank you very much for the advice.

People on the forum have cliques or something so that contributes or makes it worsr.

It s really not worth it to me. I just have ptsd really really bad from events as an adult. Sorry you have it too. You understand then....

I think you're right when you say "starve the bully".

[Artchic528]

I agree. I can't stand bullying so when I see someone on here being picked on, I defend them honorably.

[unaluna]

Rayne, im sorry you are feeling triggered. I think you express unique, intelligent, and wide-angled views and i always look forward to learning something new from your posts.

[missbella]

Rayne, I also appreciate your posts.

[DocJohn]

Report the replies you believe are unsupportive and the community support team will look into the posts further. While I can't guarantee we will take action, if they are unsupportive, they may indeed violate the community guidelines.

[*Laurie*]

[QUOTE=Artchic528;6107709]I agree. I can't stand bullying so when I see someone on here being picked on, I defend them honorably.[/]

Aw, you're so kind...always.